Pony Play is a type of pet play where the “pet” role plays as a horse and their partner (if they have one) takes on the role of a trainer, rider, owner or groom.
Pony Plays is one of the first forms of documented BDSM Animal Roleplay – think 1900’s and even earlier!
It’s know for its extravagant ‘tack’ (or pony play gear), in depth training and that lovely power exchange I and many others adore.
In this post we are going to look at
Types of Ponies
Types of Tops
Where you can find out more
Types of Ponies
Show Ponies – Ponies trained in different gaits (walk, trot, canter, gallop like bio-ponies), tricks and modelling of Tack with a focus on showmanship
Cart Ponies – Ponies who are trained to pull sulkies or small carts on two or four legs
Riding Ponies – Ponies who are ridden by their owners. These ponies can be ridden with or without a saddle and on two or four legs
Please note that the role of a cart or riding pony is physically challenging! Your or your ponies physical abilities should be taken into account to keep safe and keep playing!
Types of Tops
Owners – The Owner is whoever owns the pony. They are in charge of caring for their pony or delegating that care to another. Owners can sometimes loan out their pony girls or boys to others for shows, riding or other activities.
Riders – Anyone who rides the pony or in a cart the pony is pulling can be referred to as a Rider however some prefer the term just to be used for their Top.
Trainers – Trainers are the teachers and disciplinarians of pony girls and boys. Trainers help guide and support ponies to excel in their (or their Tops) chosen interests.
Groomers – Grooming can take many forms such as bathing, rubbing down or dressing the pony in their tack. Groomers are those who have a main focus and/or interest in this kind of interaction.
One of the biggest parts of pony play is Training!
Pony girls and boys are often trained from the ground up starting with manners; like staying still when being tied up or groomed.
Then they start learning different gaits (walk, trot and cantering) and how to be safely led using reins.
Some ponies go on to be trained to pull carts or perform tricks!
Some other activities that are commonly seen in pony play are
Grooming – bathing, brushing down and generally caring for your pony’s wellbeing is a beloved part of pony play and can be a great way to bond and provide aftercare in pony play scenes.
Veterinary play – combining this type of play can take many forms including physical examinations, “shots”, castration and breeding roleplays (the old fashion way or by artificial insemination).
As you have probably guessed Veterinary play can overlap with edge play so remember your Safe Sane Consensual and Risk Aware Consensual Kink practices!
All activities depend on the pony, their owner and the negotiations that have happened behind the scenes.
Tack is the equipment used for bio horses. this term is also used for the accessories and gear used within pony play.
Like any form of animal roleplay you don’t need gear but many enjoy it.
Pony Play in particular is known for its more extravagant Tack – usually modelled by the lovely show ponies
Common pieces of tack include (but are definitely not limited to!)
Tails – attached via butt plug or to a harness.
Hooves – hooves can come in the form of shoes and gloves and function as both bondage and added realism for ponies.
Masks – These can be used as a form sensory deprivation by restricting the ponies eyesight and increasing their reliance on their Owner for guidance. Masks can also be used to help pony girls and boys look more like ponies.
Bits and bridles – Bits and bridles are used to control the ponies head. Bits commonly go in the ponies mouth and bridles can be attached to increase the amount of control the owner has over the ponies head. Bits and bridles will often be attached to riens or some form of lead so the owner can control the pony from a distance.
Harnesses – Harnesses can act as another form of bandage, be decorative or used as attachment points for tails, carts and reins.
Bodysuits – Can be used as a way to cover up a pony for community events, incorporate other fetishes such as latex and add to the overall aesthetic of the pony depending on your goals.
When I first started in pet play I was overwhelmed with all of the information out there
From choosing animals to roleplay to developing fully functional dynamics with others and all the little details in between…
Pet Play can be intimidating.
So if you’re feeling a little overwhelmed – it’s okay!
I was exactly where you were and it gets better.
So I wanted to write this post to try to help myself and others find their feet amongst all the information that’s out there.
We will look at
Choosing the type of pet you want to roleplay
Trying out pet play
Joining the community!
Choosing the type of pet you want to roleplay
For me, this was probably the most stressful part of getting started with pet play.
Mainly because I can’t make a decision to save my life…
And everyone seemed to have such detailed specific pet personas!
It was overwhelming and for some reason, I had decided I could only have one pet side and I could NEVER GO BACK
Shockingly this is not the case.
You can pick and choose and change your mind as much as you want
You can be any color, mix or type of creature you decide
And you can have as many different pet spaces as you want to ( but I would recommend starting with one while you are finding your sea legs – otherwise it can get a bit overwhelming)
You can also choose not to have a species or type of pet you roleplay
Human pets are a great example of this – they do not roleplay a specific animal’s behavior rather they roleplay as a ‘pet’ with whatever restrictions and roles they have negotiated prior.
Here are some ways people choose their pet types
Some people just seem to know what pet they want to be
They’ve insisted on playing this one animal since they were a little kid
or they’re a crazy cat lady like me
Maybe you’ve just always loved cats or dogs or ponies
Or you saw a pup at a party and you Want That
Some but not all people just know what they want.
If you are one of these people – awesome!
If not keep reading to find some other ways people have chosen their roleplay animal
Some people pick their pet based on personality traits that they identify with
For example, most cats are quite independent, like affection on their terms and tend to know what they want when they want it
Whereas dogs are super excitable and energetic, love affection pretty much always and tend to be very well behaved
What you want out of pet play
Pet types can be chosen to fit what you want to get out of your roleplay.
Some examples of this are;
If you want to get into pet play for the obedience and training – pony play or puppy play might be your gig
If you adore humiliation play – piggy play might work perfectly for you
If you have a lactation/breastfeeding fetish – cow play would probably be great for you!
Trial and error
Sometimes there are too many choices that sound fun!
If this is the case just do a round of trial and error tasters of different types of pets and pick your favorite/s from that
If you can’t decide or you don’t want to decide, see what your Top thinks!
They may have envisioned pet play as having an obedient little pup, a strong cart pony, or perhaps a snuggly little bunny?
This way you and your top can train and shape your pet roleplay to fit whatever their vision may be
So you have your pet type is chosen – it’s perfect, your excited – IM excited –
Usually, the next thing people want to do is get stuck into the gear
This can be for a lot of reasons;
Having pet play gear can help signal the start and ends of scenes,
It can encourage roleplay
It can make you feel cute
It’s just fun
There are tons of reasons to want and enjoy gear in your roleplay.
Gear does not make the pet player
You are not more or less valid because of the gear you choose to have or not have.
This is just another way to have fun if you want to.
There are a ton of different kinds of gear for pet play to fit any style and budget out there – more common pieces of gear can include;
Ears primarily come as clip in’s or headbands
Styles range from basic silhouettes to fancy and fluffy!
Tails mainly attach through plugs, safety pins, tying around ones waist/belt loops or to a harness
Materials can range from silicone to faux fur
These are mostly used by puppy players but other options are avalible online.
Materials can range from leather to rubber and come in a ton of different styles and color combos
Masks can provide full or partial face coverings
Materials can range from fabrics such as leather to plastics
Styles can range from full coverage to play boy bunny style body suits
Materials range from latex to lace and everything in between
Harnesses are primarily found for the chest, hip or face (as a mask or hood)
Purchased harnesses are most often made from leather or can be apart of rope bondage
These are available in a range of styles and restriction levels
Materials can range from leather to fur
Styles can range from pretty and decorative to ‘tug’ proof.
Materials for range from ribbon, chain, leather or strapping
Testing out pet play
Follow some common rules or restrictions given to pets like
These can look like; crawling, not using hands to grasp stuff, not going up on furniture, keeping arms behind your back if testing out pony play
These can look like; not using words, testing out different noises like whining, growling, meowing, barking, etc
Mimic different pets
Aka my best excuse to watch cute animal videos for.. research…
wiggle your booty if your excited, try grooming yourself with your paws
play fetch with yourself (bat the ball away, go fetch it and remember no hands! repeat), just swat the ball around, burrow into some blankets, lounge in the sun, find a slightly elevated spot and sit on it. Feel superior because you and no one else is on the slightly higher spot.
– whatever seems the most appealing try it out!
Join the community!
One of the best ways to learn more about Pet play is to join your local or online communities
Pet Play is when someone role plays some kind of domesticated animal (AKA a pet) within a BDSM context.
What does Pet play looks like?
The room is lit with a warm yellow glow, the smell of vanilla – His signature – drifts through the room. The door opens a crack and His pet slips into the room – still steaming from her shower – flashing him a smile before burying herself in His arms. He chuckles and asks “Are you ready to be my kitten, pet?” She wriggles in excitement and nods eagerly. Ears are collected, placed on her head – adjusted briefly by practiced hands as she is instructed; “Tail up” Obediently she moves into position.
A soft mewl escapes her lips as her tail is inserted – the veil of her kitten space begins to settle over her. She slides to the floor and butts her head against his leg affectionately. He sits and begins to scratch behind her ears, down her neck. Mewls and purrs announce her descent into kitten mode as she basks in the affection After a while, he stands. Rummaging through a drawer. His kitten watches avidly and as he reveals a small silver torch Deeming his offering unworthy of sitting up his kitten wanders off to settle in her spot on the floor A bright red dot appeared. Dancing in front of her nose almost as if it’s teasing her, mocking her hunting skills. Her eyes narrow and she shifts into a hunter’s crouch Wriggles her butt… pounces and.. What? It was right there! The dot dances just beyond her paws and she prepares to pounce again. He chuckles watching his kitten chasing the laser back and forth across the room. Not so secretly enjoying the view of a mostly naked girl crawling around his room. Eventually, she comes to rest at his feet, exhausted… “Awh is my kitten all worn out?” “Why don’t you come have some cuddles?” he asks, patting the bed. Purring she climbs onto the bed settling herself over his chest. They stay like this for a while, until he signals her to shift spaces with the request “Can I have my girl back?” She Nods A few minutes and kisses later the heavy blanket of her kitten space has been lifted. She looks up and grins “Thank you! That was so much fun!” “You’re welcome pet” he murmurs, kissing her forehead.
This is one super cute and fluffy example of a pet play scene.
One of the awesome things about pet play is how easily it can meld and change according to your kinks, moods, or wants.
So it can be cute and light and fluffy It can be dark and twisted as fuck It can be in the quiet moments when you are having a coffee at the end of the day,
It’s completely up to you!
Things commonly found in pet play scenes are;
Training (think positions, commands)
Playing with toys
Begging for treats (puppy dog eyes, whining, positions for edible or more physical rewards insert cheesy porno music here)
Walking your pet on a leash
Eating from bowls
Movement and vocal restrictions
Why people enjoy it?
Roleplaying a pet can be a fun new way to receive service from an s-type Or A nice way to relax and be taken care of Or A different way to express submission (crawling after your master, pawing his leg for attention, non-verbal physical expressions of love and affection) Adds to the intensity of a submissive mindset
Playing the role of the human is an opportunity to care for and spoil your partner The increased level of reliance on the “human” for needs/wants of the pet (such as rest, food, water, play) can increase the focus and intensity of a scene.
Pet play overall
Can be a cool combination of playful and sexy
Melds well with other kinks so there is a lot to play with
Can be a different flavor of power exchange
Can be A fetish
Types of pet play
So your most commonly seen pet play types are;
Human Pets – this is when you roleplay as a pet but do not roleplay as a particular animal or with specific animal traits such as barking, meowing etc
PSA You can play whatever kind of animal you want providing they are at least kinda domesticated I recently discovered the concept of dragon pet play – which is both AWESOME and proof that the only limit is your imagination
Pet Play is not about an attraction to actual animals. It’s about humans roleplaying
It is all or nothing when it comes to pet play and sex
Pet Play seems to be one of those subcultures that people believe has to be ether As pure and virginal as the Virgin Mary Or a bad porno
Mostly it’s somewhere in the middle of those two expectations and will vary person to person.
Only s-types can be pets
No! This one both makes me grumpy and makes me laugh. It’s like saying only males can be dominants.
Anyone on any side of the slash can roleplay as a pet if they want to. Just like anyone of any gender identity can be a Dominant or a Submissive
Some things to consider when negotiating Aka Mistakes I made that really screwed me over and I don’t want you to suffer through
Even if you don’t have joint issues I cannot stress this enough: BUY SOME KNEE PADS Seriously if you are going to be on all fours your knees are going to take some rough treatment. Carpet burn, bruising, painful knees for literal DAYS (I didn’t have knee pads and I decided to play on a hardwood floor just this once- Do NOT make my mistake please)
This is a BDSM activity so you absolutely need a safeword. Id recommend the traffic light system because it’s easy to understand and remember
Green – I’m good, lets keep going! Yellow/Orange – I need you to slow down and/or check in on me Red – STOP RIGHT NOW
If your pet space is non-verbal decide and agree on a physical safe sign instead of a word. I, for example, like to use a FIRM double-tap anywhere on my partner’s body. If I can’t reach them,
I’ll knock/tap/stomp on whatever surface I happen to be on as loudly as possible.
If you have any examples of what pet play looks like for you, I would love to see your comments below! It would be a huge help for future posts and play dates!