5 ways to wear ribbon tails

5 ways to wear ribbon tails

Here are my five favourite ways to wear tails for pet play!

With pros and cons of course


#1 Plugs

Pros

  • You can ‘feel’ your tail when its being touched
  • Your owner helping to put your tail is really hot 

Cons

  • When your tail gets pulled (ouch)
  • Restricts your clothing options
  • Definatly not fun if you don’t enjoy anal simulation

#2 Harness

Pros

  • Can be worn under or over anything
  • It’s a more realistic placement for a tail

Cons

  • Buying more specialised gear for pet play can be expensive.

#3 Belt Loops

Pros

  • All you need is bottoms with belt loops
  • Works for a range of personal styles
  • Like the harness it gives a more realistic tail placement

Cons

  • Restricts what types of clothing you can to wear
  • Restricts access to your pet

#4 Safety Pinned

Pros

  • Can be pinned to any clothing item
  • It looks so cute pinned to the underside of skirts!

Cons

  • Safety pins can look super obvious
  • You can stab yourself
  • Only works if your wearing clothes

#5 Around your waist

Pros

  • Can be done under or over clothing
  • You can choose how high or low you want your tail to be

Cons

  • The tie can easily be pulled loose when playing,
  • It can look odd depending on placement/outfit/etc

LilSuccubuss

What is Pony Play

What is Pony Play

Pony Play is a type of pet play where the “pet” role plays as a horse and their partner (if they have one) takes on the role of a trainer, rider, owner or groom.

Pony Girls taken by Derek Bridges

Pony Plays is one of the first forms of documented BDSM Animal Roleplay – think 1900’s and even earlier!

It’s know for its extravagant ‘tack’ (or pony play gear), in depth training and that lovely power exchange I and many others adore.

In this post we are going to look at

  • Types of Ponies
  • Types of Tops
  • Activities
  • Tack
  • Where you can find out more


Types of Ponies

Show Ponies  – Ponies trained in different gaits (walk, trot, canter, gallop like bio-ponies), tricks and modelling of Tack with a focus on showmanship

Cart Ponies – Ponies who are trained to pull sulkies or small carts on two or four legs

Riding Ponies – Ponies who are ridden by their owners. These ponies can be ridden with or without a saddle and on two or four legs

Please note that the role of a cart or riding pony is physically challenging! Your or your ponies physical abilities should be taken into account to keep safe and keep playing!


Types of Tops

Owners – The Owner is whoever owns the pony. They are in charge of caring for their pony or delegating that care to another. Owners can sometimes loan out their pony girls or boys to others for shows, riding or other activities.

Riders – Anyone who rides the pony or in a cart the pony is pulling can be referred to as a Rider however some prefer the term just to be used for their Top.

Trainers – Trainers are the teachers and disciplinarians of pony girls and boys. Trainers help guide and support ponies to excel in their (or their Tops) chosen interests. 

Groomers – Grooming can take many forms such as bathing, rubbing down or dressing the pony in their tack. Groomers are those who have a main focus and/or interest in this kind of interaction.


Activities

One of the biggest parts of pony play is Training!

Pony girls and boys are often trained from the ground up starting with manners; like staying still when being tied up or groomed.

Then they start learning different gaits (walk, trot and cantering) and how to be safely led using reins.

Some ponies go on to be trained to pull carts or perform tricks!

Some other activities that are commonly seen in pony play are

Grooming – bathing, brushing down and generally caring for your pony’s wellbeing is a beloved part of pony play and can be a great way to bond and provide aftercare in pony play scenes.

Veterinary play – combining this type of play can take many forms including physical examinations, “shots”, castration and breeding roleplays (the old fashion way or by artificial insemination).

As you have probably guessed Veterinary play can overlap with edge play so remember your Safe Sane Consensual and Risk Aware Consensual Kink practices!

All activities depend on the pony, their owner and the negotiations that have happened behind the scenes.


Tack

Photo taken by Liesbeth den Toom

Tack is the equipment used for bio horses. this term is also used for the accessories and gear used within pony play.

Like any form of animal roleplay you don’t need gear but many enjoy it. 

Pony Play in particular is known for its more extravagant Tack – usually modelled by the lovely show ponies

Common pieces of tack include (but are definitely not limited to!)

Tails – attached via butt plug or to a harness.

Hooves – hooves can come in the form of shoes and gloves and function as both bondage and added realism for ponies.

Masks – These can be used as a form sensory deprivation by restricting the ponies eyesight and increasing their reliance on their Owner for guidance. Masks can also be used to help pony girls and boys look more like ponies.

Bits and bridles – Bits and bridles are used to control the ponies head. Bits commonly go in the ponies mouth and bridles can be attached to increase the amount of control the owner has over the ponies head. Bits and bridles will often be attached to riens or some form of lead so the owner can control the pony from a distance.

Harnesses – Harnesses can act as another form of bandage, be decorative or used as attachment points for tails, carts and reins.

Bodysuits – Can be used as a way to cover up a pony for community events, incorporate other fetishes such as latex and add to the overall aesthetic of the pony depending on your goals.


Where to find out more

Check out Fetlife for their community pages

This Blog by CPony is an incredible resource for anyone interested in Pony Play!

I hope this was helpful!

LilSuccubuss

Crafty critters – DIY day collar

Crafty critters – DIY day collar

DIY pet play day collar

So the other day I was deep in the black hole of the instagram pet community and I saw this

BDSM Animal Roleplay concept

Naturally I absolutly had to make a day collar with a little bell

and I thought to myself

Make it into a cradty critters tutorial!!!

So lets get started!


Making the collar

All you will need for this part is string and scissors!

Measure the string around your neck and add about 10cm. Cut 2 of this measurement. Then cut a third piece about 4-6 times longer than your center pieces

Fold your long piece of string in half and gather your pieces together like so

Tie a simple knot

Knot 1

Fold string as shown

Pull each string gently to secure knot

If you would like a spiral braid continue to repeat knot 1

Knot 2

Knot 2 is basically a reverse of Knot 1.

For a flat braid alternate between knot 1 and 2

Now keep making knots until you have reached the desired length for your day collar

When you have a long enough braid – tie a simple knot (I like to do this twice because i feel like its more secure) and trim the excess string

Thread your double knot through the loop to close


Adding extras!

For this you will need a pair of pliers, accessories (like bells or charms) and jump rings

Bend a jump ring open

Add your chosen charm

Find the half way point in your braid

Feed ring through the mid-way point of your collar

Close ring and enjoy your new day collar!

Did you enjoy this DIY?

I’d love to see what you crafty critters have been up to so show off your creations below!

LilSuccubuss

Pet Play – Building a dynamic

Pet Play – Building a dynamic

Playful kitten girl

Building a connection is hard – 

let alone a whole dynamic!!

And then add in being new to pet play or to this particular partner 

It’s definitely a challenge

But the good kind! right..?

Sadly we are all unique, individual (and often unpredictable) snowflakes

So… a step by step guide probably wont work out well  

So I’m going to talk about my experiences and what I like to do and hopefully you will be able to take the bits you enjoy and apply it to your dynamic!

In this post we will cover:

  • Common types of dynamics and relationships in Pet Play
  • Negotiations 
  • Aftercare
  • Non verbal safewording 
  • Building a bond
Crafty Critters – No-sew Clip in Bows!

Crafty Critters – No-sew Clip in Bows!

An easy DIY project for any pet to enjoy wearing and making!

Instructions

First: Gather your supplies!

For a set of two bows you will need:

  • Hot Glue gun and extra glue sticks
  • Measuring tape or ruler
  • 1.25 meters of ribbon (the ribbon I am using is 4 cm wide)
  • A lighter
  • Hair clips
  • Scissors
  • Candle (Optional! I just tend to burn myself more while using lighters)

Cut 2 pieces of ribbon at the following measurements

  • 20 cm
  • 15 cm
  • 12 cm
  • 5 cm

Seal the edges of ALL your ribbon using the flame from your candle or lighter so that they don’t fray.

Tip – Switch on the hot glue gun now so it can heat up.


Optional Step – Fancy Bow tails!

First take your 12 cm piece/s of ribbon and fold them in half width ways

Cut your ribbon at about a 45 degree angle

To seal try keep it loosely in half and run it past the flame (this helps to keep a crisp inner corner)

Do this of each end of the ribbon.


Fold your 20 and 15 cm pieces of ribbon in half lengthways.

I like to have the sealed edges fold over each other so I can secure the loop with a small dot of glue

Once everything is secure stack your ribbon pieces as shown

Add your 12 cm ribbon piece below and fold your ribbon pieces so they make a nice bow

(this takes a bit of trial and error)

Fold your 5 cm piece(s) into thirds

(helping hands can be really useful here!)

Take your 5 cm piece of ribbon and wrap it around your bow as tightly as possible.

Secure in a loop with a dot of hot glue.

After this your bow might look a little rumpled

That’s okay! because the 5 cm piece of ribbon is glued in a loop you can gently tug your bow back into place

Secure your hair clip to the back of your bow with some more glue and hold it in place while it cools

Admire your cute new bows!

Ways to wear them

Here they are clipped to a headband

Piper wears her bows in her hair behind her hood

Check out her instagram here

If you have any more ideas on how you can wear bows with pet gear let me know in the comments!

LilSuccubuss

Begginers Guide to Pet Play – Finding your pet side

Begginers Guide to Pet Play – Finding your pet side

When I first started in pet play I was overwhelmed with all of the information out there

From choosing animals to roleplay to developing fully functional dynamics with others and all the little details in between…

Pet Play can be intimidating.

So if you’re feeling a little overwhelmed – it’s okay!

I was exactly where you were and it gets better. 

So I wanted to write this post to try to help myself and others find their feet amongst all the information that’s out there.

We will look at 

  • Choosing the type of pet you want to roleplay
  • Gear
  • Trying out pet play
  • Joining the community!

Choosing the type of pet you want to roleplay

For me, this was probably the most stressful part of getting started with pet play.

Mainly because I can’t make a decision to save my life…

And everyone seemed to have such detailed specific pet personas!

It was overwhelming and for some reason, I had decided I could only have one pet side and I could NEVER GO BACK

Shockingly this is not the case. 

You can pick and choose and change your mind as much as you want

You can be any color, mix or type of creature you decide 

And you can have as many different pet spaces as you want to ( but I would recommend starting with one while you are finding your sea legs – otherwise it can get a bit overwhelming)

You can also choose not to have a species or type of pet you roleplay 

Human pets are a great example of this – they do not roleplay a specific animal’s behavior rather they roleplay as a ‘pet’ with whatever restrictions and roles they have negotiated prior.

Here are some ways people choose their pet types

Instant identification 

Some people just seem to know what pet they want to be

They’ve insisted on playing this one animal since they were a little kid 

or they’re a crazy cat lady like me

Maybe you’ve just always loved cats or dogs or ponies

Or you saw a pup at a party and you Want That

Some but not all people just know what they want.

If you are one of these people – awesome!

If not keep reading to find some other ways people have chosen their roleplay animal

Personality

Some people pick their pet based on personality traits that they identify with

For example, most cats are quite independent, like affection on their terms and tend to know what they want when they want it

Whereas dogs are super excitable and energetic, love affection pretty much always and tend to be very well behaved

What you want out of pet play 

Pet types can be chosen to fit what you want to get out of your roleplay.

Some examples of this are;

If you want to get into pet play for the obedience and training – pony play or puppy play might be your gig

If you adore humiliation play – piggy play might work perfectly for you

If you have a lactation/breastfeeding fetish – cow play would probably be great for you!

Trial and error

Sometimes there are too many choices that sound fun!

If this is the case just do a round of trial and error tasters of different types of pets and pick your favorite/s from that 

Dominants preference

If you can’t decide or you don’t want to decide, see what your Top thinks!

They may have envisioned pet play as having an obedient little pup, a strong cart pony, or perhaps a snuggly little bunny? 

This way you and your top can train and shape your pet roleplay to fit whatever their vision may be


Gear

So you have your pet type is chosen – it’s perfect, your excited – IM excited – 

Usually, the next thing people want to do is get stuck into the gear

This can be for a lot of reasons;

  • Having pet play gear can help signal the start and ends of scenes, 
  • It can encourage roleplay
  • It can make you feel cute
  • It’s just fun

There are tons of reasons to want and enjoy gear in your roleplay.

A quick disclaimer

Gear does not make the pet player

You are not more or less valid because of the gear you choose to have or not have. 

This is just another way to have fun if you want to.

There are a ton of different kinds of gear for pet play to fit any style and budget out there – more common pieces of gear can include;

Ears

Ears primarily come as clip in’s or headbands

Styles range from basic silhouettes to fancy and fluffy!

Tails

Tails mainly attach through plugs, safety pins, tying around ones waist/belt loops or to a harness

Materials can range from silicone to faux fur

Hoods

These are mostly used by puppy players but other options are avalible online.

Materials can range from leather to rubber and come in a ton of different styles and color combos

Masks

Masks can provide full or partial face coverings

Materials can range from fabrics such as leather to plastics

Body suits

Styles can range from full coverage to play boy bunny style body suits

Materials range from latex to lace and everything in between

Harnesses

Harnesses are primarily found for the chest, hip or face (as a mask or hood)

Purchased harnesses are most often made from leather or can be apart of rope bondage

Gloves/Mitts

These are available in a range of styles and restriction levels

Materials can range from leather to fur

Collars/Leads

Styles can range from pretty and decorative to ‘tug’ proof.

Materials for range from ribbon, chain, leather or strapping


Testing out pet play

Restrict yourself 

Follow some common rules or restrictions given to pets like

Movement restrictions

These can look like; crawling, not using hands to grasp stuff, not going up on furniture, keeping arms behind your back if testing out pony play 

Vocal restrictions

These can look like; not using words, testing out different noises like whining, growling, meowing, barking, etc

Mimic different pets

Aka my best excuse to watch cute animal videos for.. research…

Body Language

wiggle your booty if your excited, try grooming yourself with your paws 

Play

play fetch with yourself (bat the ball away, go fetch it and remember no hands! repeat), just swat the ball around, burrow into some blankets, lounge in the sun, find a slightly elevated spot and sit on it. Feel superior because you and no one else is on the slightly higher spot.

 – whatever seems the most appealing try it out!


Join the community!

One of the best ways to learn more about Pet play is to join your local or online communities

Fetlife – has both discussion groups and is a great resource for finding local events!

Online communities can be found on most platforms – just remember to stay safe!

If you found this useful be sure to follow so you can get notified when a new post is up!

Lil Succubuss

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What is Pet Play?

What is Pet Play?

Pet Play is when someone role plays some kind of domesticated animal (AKA a pet) within a BDSM context.

A cute little pet

What does Pet play looks like?

Storytime!

The room is lit with a warm yellow glow, the smell of vanilla – His signature – drifts through the room.
The door opens a crack and His pet slips into the room – still steaming from her shower – flashing him a smile before burying herself in His arms.
He chuckles and asks
“Are you ready to be my kitten, pet?”
She wriggles in excitement and nods eagerly.
Ears are collected, placed on her head – adjusted briefly by practiced hands as she is instructed;
“Tail up”
Obediently she moves into position.

Waiting.

A soft mewl escapes her lips as her tail is inserted – the veil of her kitten space begins to settle over her.
She slides to the floor and butts her head against his leg affectionately. He sits and begins to scratch behind her ears, down her neck. Mewls and purrs announce her descent into kitten mode as she basks in the affection
After a while, he stands. Rummaging through a drawer. His kitten watches avidly and as he reveals a small silver torch
Deeming his offering unworthy of sitting up his kitten wanders off to settle in her spot on the floor
A bright red dot appeared.
Dancing in front of her nose almost as if it’s teasing her,
mocking her hunting skills.
Her eyes narrow and she shifts into a hunter’s crouch
Wriggles her butt… pounces and..
What? It was right there!
The dot dances just beyond her paws and she prepares to pounce again.
He chuckles watching his kitten chasing the laser back and forth across the room.
Not so secretly enjoying the view of a mostly naked girl crawling around his room.
Eventually, she comes to rest at his feet, exhausted…
“Awh is my kitten all worn out?”
“Why don’t you come have some cuddles?” he asks, patting the bed.
Purring she climbs onto the bed settling herself over his chest.
They stay like this for a while, until he signals her to shift spaces with the request
“Can I have my girl back?”
She Nods
A few minutes and kisses later the heavy blanket of her kitten space has been lifted.
She looks up and grins
“Thank you! That was so much fun!”

“You’re welcome pet” he murmurs, kissing her forehead.

This is one super cute and fluffy example of a pet play scene.

One of the awesome things about pet play is how easily it can meld and change according to your kinks, moods, or wants.

So it can be cute and light and fluffy
It can be dark and twisted as fuck
It can be in the quiet moments when you are having a coffee at the end of the day,

It’s completely up to you!

Things commonly found in pet play scenes are;

  • Training (think positions, commands)
  • Playing with toys
  • Begging for treats (puppy dog eyes, whining, positions for edible or more physical rewards insert cheesy porno music here)
  • Walking your pet on a leash
  • Eating from bowls
  • Bondage
  • Impact
  • Movement and vocal restrictions

Why people enjoy it?

Roleplaying a pet can be a fun new way to receive service from an s-type
Or
A nice way to relax and be taken care of
Or
A different way to express submission (crawling after your master, pawing his leg for attention, non-verbal physical expressions of love and affection)
Adds to the intensity of a submissive mindset

Playing the role of the human is an opportunity to care for and spoil your partner
The increased level of reliance on the “human” for needs/wants of the pet (such as rest, food, water, play) can increase the focus and intensity of a scene.

Pet play overall

  • Can be a cool combination of playful and sexy
  • Melds well with other kinks so there is a lot to play with
  • Can be a different flavor of power exchange
  • Can be A fetish
  • is fun

Types of pet play

So your most commonly seen pet play types are;

  • Kitten play
  • Puppy play
  • Pony Play
  • Piggy Play
  • Cow Play
  • Human Pets – this is when you roleplay as a pet but do not roleplay as a particular animal or with specific animal traits such as barking, meowing etc

PSA
You can play whatever kind of animal you want providing they are at least kinda domesticated
I recently discovered the concept of dragon pet play – which is both AWESOME and proof that the only limit is your imagination

Myths

Beastiality

Pet Play is not about an attraction to actual animals. It’s about humans roleplaying

It is all or nothing when it comes to pet play and sex

Pet Play seems to be one of those subcultures that people believe has to be ether
As pure and virginal as the Virgin Mary
Or a bad porno

Mostly it’s somewhere in the middle of those two expectations and will vary person to person.

Only s-types can be pets

No!
This one both makes me grumpy and makes me laugh.
It’s like saying only males can be dominants.

Anyone on any side of the slash can roleplay as a pet if they want to.
Just like anyone of any gender identity can be a Dominant or a Submissive

Where to start

Research as much as possible!!

Here are some links to get you started:

And after you’ve researched like a mad man, maybe tested some stuff out independently

Negotiate with your partner
Not sure how to negotiate well?

Well here’s something I prepared earlier… Spoiler it’s more research links…

Safety Tips

Some things to consider when negotiating
Aka
Mistakes I made that really screwed me over and I don’t want you to suffer through

Knee Pads

Even if you don’t have joint issues I cannot stress this enough:
BUY SOME KNEE PADS
Seriously if you are going to be on all fours your knees are going to take some rough treatment.
Carpet burn, bruising, painful knees for literal DAYS (I didn’t have knee pads and I decided to play on a hardwood floor just this once- Do NOT make my mistake please)

Safewords

This is a BDSM activity so you absolutely need a safeword.
Id recommend the traffic light system because it’s easy to understand and remember

Green – I’m good, lets keep going!
Yellow/Orange – I need you to slow down and/or check in on me
Red – STOP RIGHT NOW

If your pet space is non-verbal decide and agree on a physical safe sign instead of a word.
I, for example, like to use a FIRM double-tap anywhere on my partner’s body.
If I can’t reach them,

I’ll knock/tap/stomp on whatever surface I happen to be on as loudly as possible.

If you have any examples of what pet play looks like for you, I would love to see your comments below!
It would be a huge help for future posts and play dates!

Lil Succubuss

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Misconceptions about Animal Roleplay

Misconceptions about Animal Roleplay

Photo by Julian Hodgson (link)

Like most subcultures out there Animal Roleplay has a TON of random misconceptions about it. 

This can be really frustrating when you are trying to explain your (or understand someone else’s) love of Animal Roleplay!

It can be stressful enough coming out of the cattery (haha) to people in your life without having to go through and explain a dozen different misconceptions your person may have heard…

In this post we are going to cover the following common misconceptions people have about Animal Roleplay;

  • Role players believe that they are actually animals
  • Animal Roleplay is Bestiality/Zoophilia
  • Its a purely sexual activity
  • Animal Roleplay is ONLY a fetish/kink/BDSM activity
  • It’s not Twu BDSM
  • Negotiations, aftercare and safe words aren’t needed – coz its not ‘real’ BDSM *internal screaming*

Roleplayers believe they are actually animals

Animal roleplay is just that,

A roleplay

There are some belief systems that in which a person sees themselves as a non-human animal on a deep and personal level.

People who share these beliefs can go by many names including;

  • Therianthropes (or therian)
  • Otherkin
  • Theriomythics

– if you want to know more check out this link

The therian/otherkin and animal roleplay communities sometimes overlap but they are not the same.

So, it’s like bestiality?

No.

Bestiality is defined as sexual activity between a human and a non-human animal. 

Then it’s Zoophilia!

Again, noo

Zoophilia is defined as a sexual fixation or atypical arousal to non-human animals

Animal Roleplay is a roleplay between consenting human adults.

Regardless of how awesome my ears and tails are (or how they may be attached) I am not physically an actual kitten.

I am a human roleplaying as a kitten.

Animal roleplay is a purely sexual activity!

Some forms of animal roleplay may involve sexual activity

But many roleplayers are non-sexual in their roleplay.

 It all depends on the people involved and negotiations you have had prior.

Animal Roleplay is ONLY a fetish/kink/ BDSM activity

Fetish/kink/BDSM can be a part of animal roleplay for some.

For many these aspects aren’t involved at all

The only forms of animal roleplay that are ‘only‘ a BDSM activity are pet and primal play.

And that’s because they were founded within (and are apart of) the BDSM scene 

And even then its not necessarily a fetish thing

Animal Roleplay isn’t Twu BDSM 

It may not be your style of BDSM. 

But BDSM Animal Roleplay is BDSM. 

There is bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, masochism involved in BDSM Animal Roleplay. 

Like any other BDSM activity it doesn’t have to be all of these aspects all the time. 

It can be a mix 

It can be just one or two aspects. 

It’s still BDSM!

Every person and relationship your and other peoples styles of BDSM are all unique snowflakes so like they say in my community 

Don’t be a dick

Negotiations, aftercare and safewords aren’t needed – because it’s not Twu BDSM

Negotiations, aftercare, safewords and consent are required in all forms of BDSM. 

NO EXCEPTIONS!

If anyone tries to convince you otherwise…

RUN AWAY VERY FAST PLEASE

Thats all Imma say otherwise I’m going to get all kinds of worked up over this

Summary

Short answer is that none of the assumptions we discussed are true. There are some grey areas which will be summarised below

Roleplayers think they are actually animals – There are some spiritualities that sometimes overlap with Animal Roleplay communities but they are not forms of Animal Roleplay

It’s purely a sexual activity – Sometimes it is sexual, sometimes it’s not. As long as sexual aspects only occurs between two consenting adults it is a-okay

ONLY a fetish/kink/BDSM – Once again – sometimes it is, sometimes it isn’t.

Thank you for reading my post!

I hope this helped to debunk a few common misconceptions about Animal Roleplay

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Lil Succubuss