Kitten Play is a type of pet play where the “pet” takes on the role of a cat and their partner (if they have one) usually acts as their owner
Unlike Puppy or Pony play, the Kitten Play community began developing online in the late 90’s – so kitten play is still pretty new!
In this post we will look at;
Types of Kittens
Types of Tops
Activities
Gear
Where to find out more
Types of Kittens
Domesticated – Kittens with a submissive and affectionate nature.
Stray – A kitten that does not have an owner/partner.
Feral – A kitten who is not submissive in nature. Feral kittens tend to be more bratty and sometimes dominant within scenes
Types of Tops
Unlike pony and puppy play Kitten Play has… less defined roles when it comes to Tops… so I’m just going to show you my understanding of tops in kitten play
Master/Mistress – I have often seen this used when people pet play interlinks closely with other D/s dynamics or in those who enjoy the more old guard flavor of BDSM
Owner – A person who owns and cares for their kitten.
Keeper – A person who cares for a kitten or kittens. From what I have seen those who use this name usually have more of a focus on a caregiver-ish dynamic.
Activities
Training – Training most often includes position training. Your kitten can also be taught to perform tricks and walk on a leash.
Naps – Cat naps ♡.♡ I mean is there anything better for a kitten?
Play – Playing! Whether is 18+ play or a ball of yarn, playing with your kitten is key to burning off all that extra energy (and preventing the mischief that seems to follow over energetic kittens)
Grooming – Grooming can cover a range of activities like; patting your kitten while you are relaxing together, brushing or playing with their hair, massages or, if you’re brave enough, baths! Most grooming activities are a great way to bond.
Kitten Play Gear
Ears – For many ears are an important identifier of being a kitten and a signal that kitten time is starting or ending. With ears being available in clips or headbands, faux fur or metal. There are as many styles as you can possibly imagine!
Tails – Tails can also be used as signals or identifiers of a kittens head space. They come in as many styles as ears and attaching tails can ben managed in various (and fun) ways.
Collars – Tug proof ribbon collars are most often seen in Kitten play but any and all types of collars are used depending on the kitten. Collars can be as part of a collaring ceremony (like a wedding band) or as a symbol that the kitten is a kitten. again, It’s all up to the person (or kitten) who is wearing the collar.
Paws – Using mitts can take away the kittens ability to use their fingers and/or hands – adding to their pet space or acting as a form of bondage. Knee Pads – Knee pads!! I have recently been reminded how much knee injuries suck. If you like to crawl in your pet space please please please protect your knees and always use knee pads!
Training and I had a rocky start to our relationship
I loved the idea of training and the obedience that would come with it.
I started with position training first because the mental and physical challenge of position training was appealing
Naturally I tried the first guide to position training I found
… it just did not work for me
It was too serious and frankly intimidating for me
After a few false starts, I found this guide to kitten play command words by Sadistic Panther.
I highly HIGHLY reccomend checking out the link!!
And I fell in love
It was just so much more fun and playful and rewarding for both myself and my partners!
Over time my kitten play training has changed to fit my evolving D/s dynamics and identity as both a submissive and a pet
So this is what my Kitten play training looks like now
Positions
Sit pretty
How I do it.
In this position I kneel with my knees shoulders width apart, sitting back on my feet.
I like to have pointed toes that meet in a V behind me, because honestly it feels pretty to me.
My hands rest on the floor between my knees and I push my chest out to give the best view of my… assets.
My kitten side is vain, to say the least, she loves to show off and this position combined with the praise I often get for obeying hits all the right buttons for me.
This position is a variation on sit pretty where my feet are set wider apart (legs parallel or in an M shape) and my butt is firmly on the floor. I do my best to keep my butt on the ground – to try to help remind myself to and to show my Owner that I will Stay.
Uses
Keep distractable kittens in one place – atleast for a li
Prevent mischief – I tend to steal my owners rope when theyre trying to pack up
Companion
How I do it
This position I kneel just like in ‘Sit pretty’ but to my Owner’s right side (or wherever they indicate). If I can I will rest my head on my Owner’s lap. If I’m told ‘paws up’ in this position I will rest my ‘paws’ on their thigh.
Uses
Keeping your kitten close
Wind down a scene
A form of aftercare
Cuddles
Belly up
How I do it.
In this position I lie flat on my back with both my legs and arms partially bent and held up off the floor. My hands will usually stay or return to above my shoulders because this is where they feel the most natural.
Uses
Playing! Dangle rope or a feather wand above your kitten
Bondage
Sensation play
(consensually!) Molesting your kitten
Tail up
How I do it
I kneel like in tail down and stretch out and down until my chest touches the floor. I rest my left cheek on the floor as well to prevent bumping my head/face on the floor. I either stretch my arms out above my head or tuck my hands under my shoulders depending on how I’m feeling. And arch my back so my booty is high in the air, if I’m feeling frisky this will usually end in a butt wiggle.
Spontaneously doing this position to show my Top that I am feeling playful and happy.
Uses
Encouraging a submissive mindset in your pet
Impact play
Inserting tail plugs
Booty wiggles
Commands
Paws up
How I do it.
I curl my fingers into my palms to create little paws and bring my hands up to my shoulders, palms out.
Uses
Removes use of fingers and hands
Easy way to access hands/wrists for bondage
Combines well with most positions but works great with sit pretty/belly up
Beg
How I do it
To beg I stand up on my knees with my hands in the paws up position. I usually follow this up with a mew or say ‘please’ depending on my or my Owner’s mood.
Uses
This is a fun way to draw attention to and deepen the sense of your power dynamic
Feeding your pet treats
A way to gain enthusiastic consent for sexual play
Hunt
How I do it
When given this command I crawl slowly on my hands and knees with my whole body as low to the ground as I can as if I’m stalking prey (usually in the form of a toy or my Owner).
Uses
Great fun when playing hide and seek with toys
Allows you and others to admire your pets hunting prowess
Knead
How I do it
This command is pretty simple. I just start kneading whatever I am currently touching – as if I’m making bread. If I’m not wearing my mitts I tend to curl my fingers into the palm of my hand to knead so I don’t accidentally hurt anyone…
Unless it’s a soft blanket because then i want to touch as much of it as humanly possible
Uses
Encouraging your kitten to relax
A great start to cuddle time with your pet
Good for self soothing nerves or excess energy
Combines well with the companion position
Clicks
How I do it
When my Owner clicks their fingers it’s the equivalent of “come here” for me and I will crawl over to them or to whenever they have indicated they want me.
The verbal command “come” has little effect on my kitten side, clicking with verbal encouragement to “come here” gets my attention when I’m in a kitten space.
Uses
Get your pet where you want them
Following this up with the tail down position to keep them there
Leash Training
I’ve only recently started leash training with my Owner (as of a few weeks ago) and I’m so excited to see how this develops!!
How I do it
At the moment when my leash is on I treat it like a mobile companion command.
This means that I try to stay at my Tops right side so my shoulder is in line with his leg, whether he is moving around or standing still. When he is still I like to sit down, mainly because I am a lazy pet and if I get distracted they usually manage to get my attention through clicking or a verbal command to ‘come’ or ‘follow’.
Uses
Have your kitten automatically follow you around
Keep your pet close and keep your freedom of movement
A physical reminder of your power exchange and your pets place
Would you or have you tried training?
I’d really like to hear about your experiences and ideas below!
So the other day I was deep in the black hole of the instagram pet community and I saw this
BDSM Animal Roleplay concept
Naturally I absolutly had to make a day collar with a little bell
and I thought to myself
Make it into a cradty critters tutorial!!!
So lets get started!
Making the collar
All you will need for this part is string and scissors!
Measure the string around your neck and add about 10cm. Cut 2 of this measurement. Then cut a third piece about 4-6 times longer than your center pieces
Fold your long piece of string in half and gather your pieces together like so
Tie a simple knot
Knot 1
Fold string as shown
Pull each string gently to secure knot
If you would like a spiral braid continue to repeat knot 1
Knot 2
Knot 2 is basically a reverse of Knot 1.
For a flat braid alternate between knot 1 and 2
Now keep making knots until you have reached the desired length for your day collar
When you have a long enough braid – tie a simple knot (I like to do this twice because i feel like its more secure) and trim the excess string
Thread your double knot through the loop to close
Adding extras!
For this you will need a pair of pliers, accessories (like bells or charms) and jump rings
Bend a jump ring open
Add your chosen charm
Find the half way point in your braid
Feed ring through the mid-way point of your collar
Close ring and enjoy your new day collar!
Did you enjoy this DIY?
I’d love to see what you crafty critters have been up to so show off your creations below!
And then add in being new to pet play or to this particular partner
It’s definitely a challenge
But the good kind! right..?
Sadly we are all unique, individual (and often unpredictable) snowflakes
So… a step by step guide probably wont work out well
So I’m going to talk about my experiences and what I like to do and hopefully you will be able to take the bits you enjoy and apply it to your dynamic!
In this post we will cover:
Common types of dynamics and relationships in Pet Play
When I first started in pet play I was overwhelmed with all of the information out there
From choosing animals to roleplay to developing fully functional dynamics with others and all the little details in between…
Pet Play can be intimidating.
So if you’re feeling a little overwhelmed – it’s okay!
I was exactly where you were and it gets better.
So I wanted to write this post to try to help myself and others find their feet amongst all the information that’s out there.
We will look at
Choosing the type of pet you want to roleplay
Gear
Trying out pet play
Joining the community!
Choosing the type of pet you want to roleplay
For me, this was probably the most stressful part of getting started with pet play.
Mainly because I can’t make a decision to save my life…
And everyone seemed to have such detailed specific pet personas!
It was overwhelming and for some reason, I had decided I could only have one pet side and I could NEVER GO BACK
Shockingly this is not the case.
You can pick and choose and change your mind as much as you want
You can be any color, mix or type of creature you decide
And you can have as many different pet spaces as you want to ( but I would recommend starting with one while you are finding your sea legs – otherwise it can get a bit overwhelming)
You can also choose not to have a species or type of pet you roleplay
Human pets are a great example of this – they do not roleplay a specific animal’s behavior rather they roleplay as a ‘pet’ with whatever restrictions and roles they have negotiated prior.
Here are some ways people choose their pet types
Instant identification
Some people just seem to know what pet they want to be
They’ve insisted on playing this one animal since they were a little kid
or they’re a crazy cat lady like me
Maybe you’ve just always loved cats or dogs or ponies
Or you saw a pup at a party and you Want That
Some but not all people just know what they want.
If you are one of these people – awesome!
If not keep reading to find some other ways people have chosen their roleplay animal
Personality
Some people pick their pet based on personality traits that they identify with
For example, most cats are quite independent, like affection on their terms and tend to know what they want when they want it
Whereas dogs are super excitable and energetic, love affection pretty much always and tend to be very well behaved
What you want out of pet play
Pet types can be chosen to fit what you want to get out of your roleplay.
Some examples of this are;
If you want to get into pet play for the obedience and training – pony play or puppy play might be your gig
If you adore humiliation play – piggy play might work perfectly for you
If you have a lactation/breastfeeding fetish – cow play would probably be great for you!
Trial and error
Sometimes there are too many choices that sound fun!
If this is the case just do a round of trial and error tasters of different types of pets and pick your favorite/s from that
Dominants preference
If you can’t decide or you don’t want to decide, see what your Top thinks!
They may have envisioned pet play as having an obedient little pup, a strong cart pony, or perhaps a snuggly little bunny?
This way you and your top can train and shape your pet roleplay to fit whatever their vision may be
Gear
So you have your pet type is chosen – it’s perfect, your excited – IM excited –
Usually, the next thing people want to do is get stuck into the gear
This can be for a lot of reasons;
Having pet play gear can help signal the start and ends of scenes,
It can encourage roleplay
It can make you feel cute
It’s just fun
There are tons of reasons to want and enjoy gear in your roleplay.
Aquick disclaimer
Gear does not make the pet player
You are not more or less valid because of the gear you choose to have or not have.
This is just another way to have fun if you want to.
There are a ton of different kinds of gear for pet play to fit any style and budget out there – more common pieces of gear can include;
Ears
Ears primarily come as clip in’s or headbands
Styles range from basic silhouettes to fancy and fluffy!
Tails
Tails mainly attach through plugs, safety pins, tying around ones waist/belt loops or to a harness
Materials can range from silicone to faux fur
Hoods
These are mostly used by puppy players but other options are avalible online.
Materials can range from leather to rubber and come in a ton of different styles and color combos
Masks
Masks can provide full or partial face coverings
Materials can range from fabrics such as leather to plastics
Body suits
Styles can range from full coverage to play boy bunny style body suits
Materials range from latex to lace and everything in between
Harnesses
Harnesses are primarily found for the chest, hip or face (as a mask or hood)
Purchased harnesses are most often made from leather or can be apart of rope bondage
Gloves/Mitts
These are available in a range of styles and restriction levels
Materials can range from leather to fur
Collars/Leads
Styles can range from pretty and decorative to ‘tug’ proof.
Materials for range from ribbon, chain, leather or strapping
Testing out pet play
Restrict yourself
Follow some common rules or restrictions given to pets like
Movement restrictions
These can look like; crawling, not using hands to grasp stuff, not going up on furniture, keeping arms behind your back if testing out pony play
Vocal restrictions
These can look like; not using words, testing out different noises like whining, growling, meowing, barking, etc
Mimic different pets
Aka my best excuse to watch cute animal videos for.. research…
Body Language
wiggle your booty if your excited, try grooming yourself with your paws
Play
play fetch with yourself (bat the ball away, go fetch it and remember no hands! repeat), just swat the ball around, burrow into some blankets, lounge in the sun, find a slightly elevated spot and sit on it. Feel superior because you and no one else is on the slightly higher spot.
– whatever seems the most appealing try it out!
Join the community!
One of the best ways to learn more about Pet play is to join your local or online communities
