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Puppy play position Training

Puppy play position Training

by Lil Succubuss ♥ 2 Comments
Frannie, puppy play in the backyard by Elmo Love

Recently I had a conversation with a fellow kinky friend who had recently discovered puppy play – and had been having a lot of fun with it!

She asked me for some advice on training in her pup space and I was honestly a bit stumped. I’d seen pups train and play at previous parties but being a kitten I’d never thought about puppy training before.

So we bounced around some ideas and it inspired me to do some research and create this post for any other pups out there who are starting out on there puppy training!

Sit

How to do it 

Get yourself into a comfortable kneeling position and sit back on your feet. Put your hands firmly on the floor (wherever and however works best for you) and look up at your Owner – adoringly of course

Uses

  • A great Foundation skill for other commands
  • Keep your pup in one place!
  • A good position to put on or remove gear for your pup (collars, ears, leashes etc)
  • Get and focus your pups attention on you 

Stay

How to do it

This command usually follows a position command – like sit. 

Hold whatever position you were in at the time of this command until a new command or pats are given (because pats are far too exciting to stay still for lets be real here!)

As a pup if you struggle to stay still for long periods of time try wagging your tail as a way to burn some of that energy whilst still obeying your owner.

Uses

  • Helps your pup to not break positions such as sit or down. 
  • Keeps them out of trouble!
  • Acts as a form of mental bondage

Down

How to do it

From whatever position or place your are get down as low as you can ie. if you are on furniture get off the furniture and onto the floor, if you are already on the floor simply lie down in whatever position is comfortable or preferred by your Owner. Some pups I know (and adore!) tend to roll straight onto their backs in preparation for their reward tummy scritches

Uses

  • Help calm your pup 
  • Keep them out of trouble in excitable or new situations
  • Allow yourself to catch up with friends without tangled in your pups leash or have them go missing
  • Can act as a mental form of Bondage
  • A nice option to wind down a scene

Come

How to do it 

Go to and/or follow your owner.

Uses

  • Calling your pup to you
  • Following up with other commands such as sit or heel to keep them close to you
  • A key strategy in mischief prevention!

Heel 

How to do it 

When your Owner is walking 

Crawl at your Owners preferred side and try keep your shoulder in line with their leg – this keeps you close to your owner without getting under their feet

When your owner is still 

When your owner is still this is an opportunity to rest your knees (especially in longer pet scenes!) by getting into your ‘Sit’ position at your owners side

For cuddly pets! –  rest your head on their leg and snag some extra pats

Uses

  • Keep your pet close to you as you move around – ( a great command for busy kink events)
  • Keep your pet from getting under your feet while you walk
  • Can be used alongside leash training or as an off leash command.

Beg 

How to do it 

Get into your “sit” position and raise both paws up to your shoulders. Give your owner your best puppy dog eyes and then whine (trust me it works almost every time)

Uses

  • This is a fun way to draw attention to and deepen the sense of your power dynamic
  • Feeding your pet treats (or ‘treats’)

Roll over

How to do it 

Lie down if you aren’t lying down already and roll yourself completely over (or if thats uncomfy you can just roll from side to side)

Uses 

  • Playing
  • Tummy rubs or tickles
  •  It’s just So Cute

A tip for Tops

I Highly recommend making little changes to your pups positions – You can base this off what you find visually pleasing, what kind of pup you want your pet to be (guard dog, show dog, lap dog etc).

For me being able to execute a position exactly to my Owners liking deepens the intimacy of our power dynamic – which I love.

Lil Succubuss

5 ways to wear ribbon tails

5 ways to wear ribbon tails

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Here are my five favourite ways to wear tails for pet play!

With pros and cons of course

#1 Plugs

Pros

  • You can ‘feel’ your tail when its being touched
  • Your owner helping to put your tail is really hot 

Cons

  • When your tail gets pulled (ouch)
  • Restricts your clothing options
  • Definatly not fun if you don’t enjoy anal simulation

#2 Harness

Pros

  • Can be worn under or over anything
  • It’s a more realistic placement for a tail

Cons

  • Buying more specialised gear for pet play can be expensive.

#3 Belt Loops

Pros

  • All you need is bottoms with belt loops
  • Works for a range of personal styles
  • Like the harness it gives a more realistic tail placement

Cons

  • Restricts what types of clothing you can to wear
  • Restricts access to your pet

#4 Safety Pinned

Pros

  • Can be pinned to any clothing item
  • It looks so cute pinned to the underside of skirts!

Cons

  • Safety pins can look super obvious
  • You can stab yourself
  • Only works if your wearing clothes

#5 Around your waist

Pros

  • Can be done under or over clothing
  • You can choose how high or low you want your tail to be

Cons

  • The tie can easily be pulled loose when playing,
  • It can look odd depending on placement/outfit/etc

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What is kitten play?

What is kitten play?

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Kitten Play is a type of pet play where the “pet” takes on the role of a cat and their partner (if they have one) usually acts as their owner

Unlike Puppy or Pony play, the Kitten Play community began developing online in the late 90’s – so kitten play is still pretty new!

In this post we will look at;

  • Types of Kittens
  • Types of Tops
  • Activities
  • Gear
  • Where to find out more

Types of Kittens

Domesticated – Kittens with a submissive and affectionate nature.

Stray – A kitten that does not have an owner/partner.

Feral – A kitten who is not submissive in nature. Feral kittens tend to be more bratty and sometimes dominant within scenes

Types of Tops

Unlike pony and puppy play Kitten Play has… less defined roles when it comes to Tops… so I’m just going to show you my understanding of tops in kitten play

Master/Mistress – I have often seen this used when people pet play interlinks closely with other D/s dynamics or in those who enjoy the more old guard flavor of BDSM

Owner – A person who owns and cares for their kitten.

Keeper – A person who cares for a kitten or kittens. From what I have seen those who use this name usually have more of a focus on a caregiver-ish dynamic.

Activities

Training – Training most often includes position training. Your kitten can also be taught to perform tricks and walk on a leash.

Naps – Cat naps ♡.♡ I mean is there anything better for a kitten? 

Play – Playing! Whether is 18+ play or a ball of yarn, playing with your kitten is key to burning off all that extra energy (and preventing the mischief that seems to follow over energetic kittens)

Grooming – Grooming can cover a range of activities like; patting your kitten while you are relaxing together, brushing or playing with their hair, massages or, if you’re brave enough, baths! Most grooming activities are a great way to bond.

Kitten Play Gear

Ears – For many ears are an important identifier of being a kitten and a signal that kitten time is starting or ending. With ears being available in clips or headbands, faux fur or metal. There are as many styles as you can possibly imagine! 

Tails – Tails can also be used as signals or identifiers of a kittens head space. They come in as many styles as ears and attaching tails can ben  managed in various (and fun) ways.

Collars – Tug proof ribbon collars are most often seen in Kitten play but any and all types of collars are used depending on the kitten. Collars can be as part of a collaring ceremony (like a wedding band) or as a symbol that the kitten is a kitten. again, It’s all up to the person (or kitten) who is wearing the collar.

Paws – Using mitts can take away the kittens ability to use their fingers and/or hands – adding to their pet space or acting as a form of bondage. 
Knee Pads – Knee pads!! I have recently been reminded how much knee injuries suck. If you like to crawl in your pet space please please please protect your knees and always use knee pads!

Where to find out more

Blogs like kitten play.com and the chateau

Youtubers such as screamkiwi and of course Evie Lupin

Online communities on Instagram and Fetlife are awesome to make connections with other kittens

Photo by WIDEANGLE@108dB

What is Puppy Play

What is Puppy Play

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Puppy Play is a type of pet play where the “pet” takes on the role of a canine and their partner (if they have one) often takes on the role of an owner/trainer/handler

Puppy play as we know it began in the leather community after the 2nd world war.

Now days puppy play has become hugely popular within BDSM communities!

In this post we will look at;

  • Types of Pups
  • Types of Humans
  • Activities
  • Gear
  • Where to find out more

Types of Pups

Some common puppy types pet players identify with are:

Puppies – Puppies are the over excitable, playful and super enthusiastic puppy player.

 Puppies or pups is also used as an umbrella name for puppy player.

Strays – Pups who are not collared or do not have an owner/trainer/handler

Alphas – Alpha’s tend to be the top dogs around the other pups. Alphas can take a leadership role within packs or at community events 

Sometimes they will even exert this dominance over their humans as well. 

Show Dogs – This type of pup generally enjoys training for a purpose and showmanship. This is often to compete in competitions like obedience or agility but it can also just be for the fun of it!

Types of Humans

Handlers – those who care for and train one or more pups. This is the most common term used for humans in puppy play and can act as a blanket term if your not sure of the human/pup player dynamic.

Owners – those who “own” the pup. They are incharge of caring for their pup much like a Handler but the title itself gives off more of a power dynamic vibe

Trainers – those who teach and discipline puppy girls and boys to excel in their (or their dominants) chosen interests. 

Companions – those who interact and play with pups without necessarily being in charge of training or caring for them.

Activities!

Training – Basic training often includes simple command words (sit, stay, beg), and positioning training.

Moshes – Moshes are like a big puppy play-date. these events provide a safe space for pups to play and wrestle with one another (Called moshing). Moshes are also an opportunity for handlers to spend some time socializing too!

Shows – Human pup competitions take place all over the world and can be a great opportunity to meet up and make new friends in the pup community. Competing in the shows is entirely optional and can be a ton of fun if you want to try it out!

Gear

Puppy Play gear is varied and personalized depending on you, your pup space and/or your dynamics. Gear isn’t needed to be a puppy player but it can be a fun way to express yourself!

Some common pieces of gear in Puppy Play are;

Hoods – can be used to help pups look more pup-ish or as a form of sensory deprivation. Hoods are often made of leather or rubber and come in a range of styles and colours to suit any pup!

Ears – ears can be a part of hoods or come on headbands/clips. Ears are often made with faux fur if they’re on headbands. They can be a super fun way to add to the feeling of being a pup without using a hood

Mitts – mitts can be padded or not and are mainly used to remove the pups ability to use their fingers/hands.

Harness – Harnesses can be used for aesthetic, bondage or as attachment points

Collar – collars can be aesthetic or symbolic depending on you and your dynamic

Tails – tails come in a ton of different styles to match ears, masks or whatever style you want. Tails also come with the option of being inserted or attached through harnesses, belt loops or tying around the waist depending in personal preference

Knee pads – Knee pads!! I have recently learnt how much knee injuries suck. If you like to crawl in your pup space please please please protect your knees and always use knee pads!

Where to find out more

To find out more about Puppy play check out

Blogs like Nerdy Doggo and Deviance and Desire

Evie Lupines videos

And online communities like fetlife

Photo by istolethetv

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BDSM Kitten Play Training

BDSM Kitten Play Training

by Lil Succubuss ♥ 2 Comments
Paws up Kitten

Training and I had a rocky start to our relationship

I loved the idea of training and the obedience that would come with it. 

I started with position training first because the mental and physical challenge of position training was appealing 

Naturally I tried the first guide to position training I found 

… it just did not work for me

It was too serious and frankly intimidating for me

After a few false starts, I found this guide to kitten play command words by Sadistic Panther.

I highly HIGHLY reccomend checking out the link!!

And I fell in love

It was just so much more fun and playful and rewarding for both myself and my partners!

Over time my kitten play training has changed to fit my evolving D/s dynamics and identity as both a submissive and a pet

So this is what my Kitten play training looks like now

 Positions

Sit pretty 

How I do it. 

In this position I kneel with my knees shoulders width apart, sitting back on my feet. 

I like to have pointed toes that meet in a V behind me, because honestly it feels pretty to me. 

My hands rest on the floor between my knees and I push my chest out to give the best view of my… assets. 

My kitten side is vain, to say the least, she loves to show off and this position combined with the praise I often get for obeying hits all the right buttons for me.

Uses

  • Grooming
  • Pats
  • Putting on/removing gear (like collars, hoods, leashes etc)
  • Getting your pets attention
  • A clear start to a scene

Tail down

How I do it

This position is a variation on sit pretty where my feet are set wider apart (legs parallel or in an M shape) and my butt is firmly on the floor. I do my best to keep my butt on the ground – to try to help remind myself to and to show my Owner that I will Stay. 

Uses

  • Keep distractable kittens in one place – atleast for a li
  • Prevent mischief – I tend to steal my owners rope when theyre trying to pack up

Companion 

How I do it

This position I kneel just like in ‘Sit pretty’ but to my Owner’s right side (or wherever they indicate). If I can I will rest my head on my Owner’s lap. If I’m told ‘paws up’ in this position I will rest my ‘paws’ on their thigh. 

Uses 

  • Keeping your kitten close
  • Wind down a scene
  • A form of aftercare
  • Cuddles

Belly up 

How I do it. 

In this position I lie flat on my back with both my legs and arms partially bent and held up off the floor. My hands will usually stay or return to above my shoulders because this is where they feel the most natural.

Uses

  • Playing! Dangle rope or a feather wand above your kitten
  • Bondage
  • Sensation play
  • (consensually!) Molesting your kitten

Tail up

How I do it

I kneel like in tail down and stretch out and down until my chest touches the floor. I rest my left cheek on the floor as well to prevent bumping my head/face on the floor. I either stretch my arms out above my head or tuck my hands under my shoulders depending on how I’m feeling. And arch my back so my booty is high in the air, if I’m feeling frisky this will usually end in a butt wiggle. 

Spontaneously doing this position to show my Top that I am feeling playful and happy. 

Uses

  • Encouraging a submissive mindset in your pet 
  • Impact play
  • Inserting tail plugs
  • Booty wiggles 

Commands

Paws up 

How I do it.

I curl my fingers into my palms to create little paws and bring my hands up to my shoulders, palms out.

Uses 

  • Removes use of fingers and hands
  • Easy way to access hands/wrists for bondage
  • Combines well with most positions but works great with sit pretty/belly up

Beg 

How I do it

To beg I stand up on my knees with my hands in the paws up position. I usually follow this up with a mew or say ‘please’ depending on my or my Owner’s mood.

Uses 

  • This is a fun way to draw attention to and deepen the sense of your power dynamic
  • Feeding your pet treats
  • A way to gain enthusiastic consent for sexual play

Hunt 

How I do it

When given this command I crawl slowly on my hands and knees with my whole body as low to the ground as I can as if I’m stalking prey (usually in the form of a toy or my Owner). 

Uses 

  • Great fun when playing hide and seek with toys
  • Allows you and others to admire your pets hunting prowess

Knead 

How I do it

This command is pretty simple. I just start kneading whatever I am currently touching – as if I’m making bread. If I’m not wearing my mitts I tend to curl my fingers into the palm of my hand to knead so I don’t accidentally hurt anyone… 

Unless it’s a soft blanket because then i want to touch as much of it as humanly possible

Uses  

  • Encouraging your kitten to relax 
  • A great start to cuddle time with your pet
  • Good for self soothing nerves or excess energy
  • Combines well with the companion position

Clicks

How I do it

When my Owner clicks their fingers it’s the equivalent of “come here” for me and I will crawl over to them or to whenever they have indicated they want me.

 The verbal command “come” has little effect on my kitten side, clicking with verbal encouragement to “come here” gets my attention when I’m in a kitten space.

Uses

  • Get your pet where you want them
  • Following this up with the tail down position to keep them there

Leash Training

I’ve only recently started leash training with my Owner (as of a few weeks ago) and I’m so excited to see how this develops!!

How I do it

At the moment when my leash is on I treat it like a mobile companion command. 

This means that I try to stay at my Tops right side so my shoulder is in line with his leg, whether he is moving around or standing still. When he is still I like to sit down, mainly because I am a lazy pet and if I get distracted they usually manage to get my attention through clicking or a verbal command to ‘come’ or ‘follow’.

Uses

  • Have your kitten automatically follow you around
  • Keep your pet close and keep your freedom of movement
  • A physical reminder of your power exchange and your pets place

Would you or have you tried training? 

I’d really like to hear about your experiences and ideas below!

LilSuccubuss

Pet Play – Building a dynamic

Pet Play – Building a dynamic

by Lil Succubuss ♥ 3 Comments
Playful kitten girl

Building a connection is hard – 

let alone a whole dynamic!!

And then add in being new to pet play or to this particular partner 

It’s definitely a challenge

But the good kind! right..?

Sadly we are all unique, individual (and often unpredictable) snowflakes

So… a step by step guide probably wont work out well  

So I’m going to talk about my experiences and what I like to do and hopefully you will be able to take the bits you enjoy and apply it to your dynamic!

In this post we will cover:

  • Common types of dynamics and relationships in Pet Play
  • Negotiations 
  • Aftercare
  • Non verbal safewording 
  • Building a bond
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Begginers Guide to Pet Play – Finding your pet side

Begginers Guide to Pet Play – Finding your pet side

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When I first started in pet play I was overwhelmed with all of the information out there

From choosing animals to roleplay to developing fully functional dynamics with others and all the little details in between…

Pet Play can be intimidating.

So if you’re feeling a little overwhelmed – it’s okay!

I was exactly where you were and it gets better. 

So I wanted to write this post to try to help myself and others find their feet amongst all the information that’s out there.

We will look at 

  • Choosing the type of pet you want to roleplay
  • Gear
  • Trying out pet play
  • Joining the community!

Choosing the type of pet you want to roleplay

For me, this was probably the most stressful part of getting started with pet play.

Mainly because I can’t make a decision to save my life…

And everyone seemed to have such detailed specific pet personas!

It was overwhelming and for some reason, I had decided I could only have one pet side and I could NEVER GO BACK

Shockingly this is not the case. 

You can pick and choose and change your mind as much as you want

You can be any color, mix or type of creature you decide 

And you can have as many different pet spaces as you want to ( but I would recommend starting with one while you are finding your sea legs – otherwise it can get a bit overwhelming)

You can also choose not to have a species or type of pet you roleplay 

Human pets are a great example of this – they do not roleplay a specific animal’s behavior rather they roleplay as a ‘pet’ with whatever restrictions and roles they have negotiated prior.

Here are some ways people choose their pet types

Instant identification 

Some people just seem to know what pet they want to be

They’ve insisted on playing this one animal since they were a little kid 

or they’re a crazy cat lady like me

Maybe you’ve just always loved cats or dogs or ponies

Or you saw a pup at a party and you Want That

Some but not all people just know what they want.

If you are one of these people – awesome!

If not keep reading to find some other ways people have chosen their roleplay animal

Personality

Some people pick their pet based on personality traits that they identify with

For example, most cats are quite independent, like affection on their terms and tend to know what they want when they want it

Whereas dogs are super excitable and energetic, love affection pretty much always and tend to be very well behaved

What you want out of pet play 

Pet types can be chosen to fit what you want to get out of your roleplay.

Some examples of this are;

If you want to get into pet play for the obedience and training – pony play or puppy play might be your gig

If you adore humiliation play – piggy play might work perfectly for you

If you have a lactation/breastfeeding fetish – cow play would probably be great for you!

Trial and error

Sometimes there are too many choices that sound fun!

If this is the case just do a round of trial and error tasters of different types of pets and pick your favorite/s from that 

Dominants preference

If you can’t decide or you don’t want to decide, see what your Top thinks!

They may have envisioned pet play as having an obedient little pup, a strong cart pony, or perhaps a snuggly little bunny? 

This way you and your top can train and shape your pet roleplay to fit whatever their vision may be

Gear

So you have your pet type is chosen – it’s perfect, your excited – IM excited – 

Usually, the next thing people want to do is get stuck into the gear

This can be for a lot of reasons;

  • Having pet play gear can help signal the start and ends of scenes, 
  • It can encourage roleplay
  • It can make you feel cute
  • It’s just fun

There are tons of reasons to want and enjoy gear in your roleplay.

A quick disclaimer

Gear does not make the pet player

You are not more or less valid because of the gear you choose to have or not have. 

This is just another way to have fun if you want to.

There are a ton of different kinds of gear for pet play to fit any style and budget out there – more common pieces of gear can include;

Ears

Ears primarily come as clip in’s or headbands

Styles range from basic silhouettes to fancy and fluffy!

Tails

Tails mainly attach through plugs, safety pins, tying around ones waist/belt loops or to a harness

Materials can range from silicone to faux fur

Hoods

These are mostly used by puppy players but other options are avalible online.

Materials can range from leather to rubber and come in a ton of different styles and color combos

Masks

Masks can provide full or partial face coverings

Materials can range from fabrics such as leather to plastics

Body suits

Styles can range from full coverage to play boy bunny style body suits

Materials range from latex to lace and everything in between

Harnesses

Harnesses are primarily found for the chest, hip or face (as a mask or hood)

Purchased harnesses are most often made from leather or can be apart of rope bondage

Gloves/Mitts

These are available in a range of styles and restriction levels

Materials can range from leather to fur

Collars/Leads

Styles can range from pretty and decorative to ‘tug’ proof.

Materials for range from ribbon, chain, leather or strapping

Testing out pet play

Restrict yourself 

Follow some common rules or restrictions given to pets like

Movement restrictions

These can look like; crawling, not using hands to grasp stuff, not going up on furniture, keeping arms behind your back if testing out pony play 

Vocal restrictions

These can look like; not using words, testing out different noises like whining, growling, meowing, barking, etc

Mimic different pets

Aka my best excuse to watch cute animal videos for.. research…

Body Language

wiggle your booty if your excited, try grooming yourself with your paws 

Play

play fetch with yourself (bat the ball away, go fetch it and remember no hands! repeat), just swat the ball around, burrow into some blankets, lounge in the sun, find a slightly elevated spot and sit on it. Feel superior because you and no one else is on the slightly higher spot.

 – whatever seems the most appealing try it out!

Join the community!

One of the best ways to learn more about Pet play is to join your local or online communities

Fetlife – has both discussion groups and is a great resource for finding local events!

Online communities can be found on most platforms – just remember to stay safe!

If you found this useful be sure to follow so you can get notified when a new post is up!

Lil Succubuss

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