BDSM Kitten Play Training

BDSM Kitten Play Training

Paws up Kitten

Training and I had a rocky start to our relationship

I loved the idea of training and the obedience that would come with it. 

I started with position training first because the mental and physical challenge of position training was appealing 

Naturally I tried the first guide to position training I found 

… it just did not work for me

It was too serious and frankly intimidating for me

After a few false starts, I found this guide to kitten play command words by Sadistic Panther.

I highly HIGHLY reccomend checking out the link!!

And I fell in love

It was just so much more fun and playful and rewarding for both myself and my partners!

Over time my kitten play training has changed to fit my evolving D/s dynamics and identity as both a submissive and a pet

So this is what my Kitten play training looks like now


 Positions

Sit pretty 

How I do it. 

In this position I kneel with my knees shoulders width apart, sitting back on my feet. 

I like to have pointed toes that meet in a V behind me, because honestly it feels pretty to me. 

My hands rest on the floor between my knees and I push my chest out to give the best view of my… assets. 

My kitten side is vain, to say the least, she loves to show off and this position combined with the praise I often get for obeying hits all the right buttons for me.

Uses

  • Grooming
  • Pats
  • Putting on/removing gear (like collars, hoods, leashes etc)
  • Getting your pets attention
  • A clear start to a scene

Tail down

How I do it

This position is a variation on sit pretty where my feet are set wider apart (legs parallel or in an M shape) and my butt is firmly on the floor. I do my best to keep my butt on the ground – to try to help remind myself to and to show my Owner that I will Stay. 

Uses

  • Keep distractable kittens in one place – atleast for a li
  • Prevent mischief – I tend to steal my owners rope when theyre trying to pack up

Companion 

How I do it

This position I kneel just like in ‘Sit pretty’ but to my Owner’s right side (or wherever they indicate). If I can I will rest my head on my Owner’s lap. If I’m told ‘paws up’ in this position I will rest my ‘paws’ on their thigh. 

Uses 

  • Keeping your kitten close
  • Wind down a scene
  • A form of aftercare
  • Cuddles

Belly up 

How I do it. 

In this position I lie flat on my back with both my legs and arms partially bent and held up off the floor. My hands will usually stay or return to above my shoulders because this is where they feel the most natural.

Uses

  • Playing! Dangle rope or a feather wand above your kitten
  • Bondage
  • Sensation play
  • (consensually!) Molesting your kitten

Tail up

How I do it

I kneel like in tail down and stretch out and down until my chest touches the floor. I rest my left cheek on the floor as well to prevent bumping my head/face on the floor. I either stretch my arms out above my head or tuck my hands under my shoulders depending on how I’m feeling. And arch my back so my booty is high in the air, if I’m feeling frisky this will usually end in a butt wiggle. 

Spontaneously doing this position to show my Top that I am feeling playful and happy. 

Uses

  • Encouraging a submissive mindset in your pet 
  • Impact play
  • Inserting tail plugs
  • Booty wiggles 

Commands

Paws up 

How I do it.

I curl my fingers into my palms to create little paws and bring my hands up to my shoulders, palms out.

Uses 

  • Removes use of fingers and hands
  • Easy way to access hands/wrists for bondage
  • Combines well with most positions but works great with sit pretty/belly up

Beg 

How I do it

To beg I stand up on my knees with my hands in the paws up position. I usually follow this up with a mew or say ‘please’ depending on my or my Owner’s mood.

Uses 

  • This is a fun way to draw attention to and deepen the sense of your power dynamic
  • Feeding your pet treats
  • A way to gain enthusiastic consent for sexual play

Hunt 

How I do it

When given this command I crawl slowly on my hands and knees with my whole body as low to the ground as I can as if I’m stalking prey (usually in the form of a toy or my Owner). 

Uses 

  • Great fun when playing hide and seek with toys
  • Allows you and others to admire your pets hunting prowess

Knead 

How I do it

This command is pretty simple. I just start kneading whatever I am currently touching – as if I’m making bread. If I’m not wearing my mitts I tend to curl my fingers into the palm of my hand to knead so I don’t accidentally hurt anyone… 

Unless it’s a soft blanket because then i want to touch as much of it as humanly possible

Uses  

  • Encouraging your kitten to relax 
  • A great start to cuddle time with your pet
  • Good for self soothing nerves or excess energy
  • Combines well with the companion position

Clicks

How I do it

When my Owner clicks their fingers it’s the equivalent of “come here” for me and I will crawl over to them or to whenever they have indicated they want me.

 The verbal command “come” has little effect on my kitten side, clicking with verbal encouragement to “come here” gets my attention when I’m in a kitten space.

Uses

  • Get your pet where you want them
  • Following this up with the tail down position to keep them there


Leash Training

I’ve only recently started leash training with my Owner (as of a few weeks ago) and I’m so excited to see how this develops!!

How I do it

At the moment when my leash is on I treat it like a mobile companion command. 

This means that I try to stay at my Tops right side so my shoulder is in line with his leg, whether he is moving around or standing still. When he is still I like to sit down, mainly because I am a lazy pet and if I get distracted they usually manage to get my attention through clicking or a verbal command to ‘come’ or ‘follow’.

Uses

  • Have your kitten automatically follow you around
  • Keep your pet close and keep your freedom of movement
  • A physical reminder of your power exchange and your pets place

Would you or have you tried training? 

I’d really like to hear about your experiences and ideas below!

LilSuccubuss

Pet Play – Building a dynamic

Pet Play – Building a dynamic

Playful kitten girl

Building a connection is hard – 

let alone a whole dynamic!!

And then add in being new to pet play or to this particular partner 

It’s definitely a challenge

But the good kind! right..?

Sadly we are all unique, individual (and often unpredictable) snowflakes

So… a step by step guide probably wont work out well  

So I’m going to talk about my experiences and what I like to do and hopefully you will be able to take the bits you enjoy and apply it to your dynamic!

In this post we will cover:

  • Common types of dynamics and relationships in Pet Play
  • Negotiations 
  • Aftercare
  • Non verbal safewording 
  • Building a bond
Begginers Guide to Pet Play – Finding your pet side

Begginers Guide to Pet Play – Finding your pet side

When I first started in pet play I was overwhelmed with all of the information out there

From choosing animals to roleplay to developing fully functional dynamics with others and all the little details in between…

Pet Play can be intimidating.

So if you’re feeling a little overwhelmed – it’s okay!

I was exactly where you were and it gets better. 

So I wanted to write this post to try to help myself and others find their feet amongst all the information that’s out there.

We will look at 

  • Choosing the type of pet you want to roleplay
  • Gear
  • Trying out pet play
  • Joining the community!

Choosing the type of pet you want to roleplay

For me, this was probably the most stressful part of getting started with pet play.

Mainly because I can’t make a decision to save my life…

And everyone seemed to have such detailed specific pet personas!

It was overwhelming and for some reason, I had decided I could only have one pet side and I could NEVER GO BACK

Shockingly this is not the case. 

You can pick and choose and change your mind as much as you want

You can be any color, mix or type of creature you decide 

And you can have as many different pet spaces as you want to ( but I would recommend starting with one while you are finding your sea legs – otherwise it can get a bit overwhelming)

You can also choose not to have a species or type of pet you roleplay 

Human pets are a great example of this – they do not roleplay a specific animal’s behavior rather they roleplay as a ‘pet’ with whatever restrictions and roles they have negotiated prior.

Here are some ways people choose their pet types

Instant identification 

Some people just seem to know what pet they want to be

They’ve insisted on playing this one animal since they were a little kid 

or they’re a crazy cat lady like me

Maybe you’ve just always loved cats or dogs or ponies

Or you saw a pup at a party and you Want That

Some but not all people just know what they want.

If you are one of these people – awesome!

If not keep reading to find some other ways people have chosen their roleplay animal

Personality

Some people pick their pet based on personality traits that they identify with

For example, most cats are quite independent, like affection on their terms and tend to know what they want when they want it

Whereas dogs are super excitable and energetic, love affection pretty much always and tend to be very well behaved

What you want out of pet play 

Pet types can be chosen to fit what you want to get out of your roleplay.

Some examples of this are;

If you want to get into pet play for the obedience and training – pony play or puppy play might be your gig

If you adore humiliation play – piggy play might work perfectly for you

If you have a lactation/breastfeeding fetish – cow play would probably be great for you!

Trial and error

Sometimes there are too many choices that sound fun!

If this is the case just do a round of trial and error tasters of different types of pets and pick your favorite/s from that 

Dominants preference

If you can’t decide or you don’t want to decide, see what your Top thinks!

They may have envisioned pet play as having an obedient little pup, a strong cart pony, or perhaps a snuggly little bunny? 

This way you and your top can train and shape your pet roleplay to fit whatever their vision may be


Gear

So you have your pet type is chosen – it’s perfect, your excited – IM excited – 

Usually, the next thing people want to do is get stuck into the gear

This can be for a lot of reasons;

  • Having pet play gear can help signal the start and ends of scenes, 
  • It can encourage roleplay
  • It can make you feel cute
  • It’s just fun

There are tons of reasons to want and enjoy gear in your roleplay.

A quick disclaimer

Gear does not make the pet player

You are not more or less valid because of the gear you choose to have or not have. 

This is just another way to have fun if you want to.

There are a ton of different kinds of gear for pet play to fit any style and budget out there – more common pieces of gear can include;

Ears

Ears primarily come as clip in’s or headbands

Styles range from basic silhouettes to fancy and fluffy!

Tails

Tails mainly attach through plugs, safety pins, tying around ones waist/belt loops or to a harness

Materials can range from silicone to faux fur

Hoods

These are mostly used by puppy players but other options are avalible online.

Materials can range from leather to rubber and come in a ton of different styles and color combos

Masks

Masks can provide full or partial face coverings

Materials can range from fabrics such as leather to plastics

Body suits

Styles can range from full coverage to play boy bunny style body suits

Materials range from latex to lace and everything in between

Harnesses

Harnesses are primarily found for the chest, hip or face (as a mask or hood)

Purchased harnesses are most often made from leather or can be apart of rope bondage

Gloves/Mitts

These are available in a range of styles and restriction levels

Materials can range from leather to fur

Collars/Leads

Styles can range from pretty and decorative to ‘tug’ proof.

Materials for range from ribbon, chain, leather or strapping


Testing out pet play

Restrict yourself 

Follow some common rules or restrictions given to pets like

Movement restrictions

These can look like; crawling, not using hands to grasp stuff, not going up on furniture, keeping arms behind your back if testing out pony play 

Vocal restrictions

These can look like; not using words, testing out different noises like whining, growling, meowing, barking, etc

Mimic different pets

Aka my best excuse to watch cute animal videos for.. research…

Body Language

wiggle your booty if your excited, try grooming yourself with your paws 

Play

play fetch with yourself (bat the ball away, go fetch it and remember no hands! repeat), just swat the ball around, burrow into some blankets, lounge in the sun, find a slightly elevated spot and sit on it. Feel superior because you and no one else is on the slightly higher spot.

 – whatever seems the most appealing try it out!


Join the community!

One of the best ways to learn more about Pet play is to join your local or online communities

Fetlife – has both discussion groups and is a great resource for finding local events!

Online communities can be found on most platforms – just remember to stay safe!

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Lil Succubuss

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