Puppy play position Training

Puppy play position Training

Frannie, puppy play in the backyard by Elmo Love

Recently I had a conversation with a fellow kinky friend who had recently discovered puppy play – and had been having a lot of fun with it!

She asked me for some advice on training in her pup space and I was honestly a bit stumped. I’d seen pups train and play at previous parties but being a kitten I’d never thought about puppy training before.

So we bounced around some ideas and it inspired me to do some research and create this post for any other pups out there who are starting out on there puppy training!


Sit

How to do it 

Get yourself into a comfortable kneeling position and sit back on your feet. Put your hands firmly on the floor (wherever and however works best for you) and look up at your Owner – adoringly of course

Uses

  • A great Foundation skill for other commands
  • Keep your pup in one place!
  • A good position to put on or remove gear for your pup (collars, ears, leashes etc)
  • Get and focus your pups attention on you 

Stay

How to do it

This command usually follows a position command – like sit. 

Hold whatever position you were in at the time of this command until a new command or pats are given (because pats are far too exciting to stay still for lets be real here!)

As a pup if you struggle to stay still for long periods of time try wagging your tail as a way to burn some of that energy whilst still obeying your owner.

Uses

  • Helps your pup to not break positions such as sit or down. 
  • Keeps them out of trouble!
  • Acts as a form of mental bondage

Down

How to do it

From whatever position or place your are get down as low as you can ie. if you are on furniture get off the furniture and onto the floor, if you are already on the floor simply lie down in whatever position is comfortable or preferred by your Owner. Some pups I know (and adore!) tend to roll straight onto their backs in preparation for their reward tummy scritches

Uses

  • Help calm your pup 
  • Keep them out of trouble in excitable or new situations
  • Allow yourself to catch up with friends without tangled in your pups leash or have them go missing
  • Can act as a mental form of Bondage
  • A nice option to wind down a scene

Come

How to do it 

Go to and/or follow your owner.

Uses

  • Calling your pup to you
  • Following up with other commands such as sit or heel to keep them close to you
  • A key strategy in mischief prevention!

Heel 

How to do it 

When your Owner is walking 

Crawl at your Owners preferred side and try keep your shoulder in line with their leg – this keeps you close to your owner without getting under their feet

When your owner is still 

When your owner is still this is an opportunity to rest your knees (especially in longer pet scenes!) by getting into your ‘Sit’ position at your owners side

For cuddly pets! –  rest your head on their leg and snag some extra pats

Uses

  • Keep your pet close to you as you move around – ( a great command for busy kink events)
  • Keep your pet from getting under your feet while you walk
  • Can be used alongside leash training or as an off leash command.

Beg 

How to do it 

Get into your “sit” position and raise both paws up to your shoulders. Give your owner your best puppy dog eyes and then whine (trust me it works almost every time)

Uses

  • This is a fun way to draw attention to and deepen the sense of your power dynamic
  • Feeding your pet treats (or ‘treats’)

Roll over

How to do it 

Lie down if you aren’t lying down already and roll yourself completely over (or if thats uncomfy you can just roll from side to side)

Uses 

  • Playing
  • Tummy rubs or tickles
  •  It’s just So Cute

A tip for Tops

I Highly recommend making little changes to your pups positions – You can base this off what you find visually pleasing, what kind of pup you want your pet to be (guard dog, show dog, lap dog etc).

For me being able to execute a position exactly to my Owners liking deepens the intimacy of our power dynamic – which I love.

Lil Succubuss

5 ways to wear ribbon tails

5 ways to wear ribbon tails

Here are my five favourite ways to wear tails for pet play!

With pros and cons of course


#1 Plugs

Pros

  • You can ‘feel’ your tail when its being touched
  • Your owner helping to put your tail is really hot 

Cons

  • When your tail gets pulled (ouch)
  • Restricts your clothing options
  • Definatly not fun if you don’t enjoy anal simulation

#2 Harness

Pros

  • Can be worn under or over anything
  • It’s a more realistic placement for a tail

Cons

  • Buying more specialised gear for pet play can be expensive.

#3 Belt Loops

Pros

  • All you need is bottoms with belt loops
  • Works for a range of personal styles
  • Like the harness it gives a more realistic tail placement

Cons

  • Restricts what types of clothing you can to wear
  • Restricts access to your pet

#4 Safety Pinned

Pros

  • Can be pinned to any clothing item
  • It looks so cute pinned to the underside of skirts!

Cons

  • Safety pins can look super obvious
  • You can stab yourself
  • Only works if your wearing clothes

#5 Around your waist

Pros

  • Can be done under or over clothing
  • You can choose how high or low you want your tail to be

Cons

  • The tie can easily be pulled loose when playing,
  • It can look odd depending on placement/outfit/etc

LilSuccubuss

What is Puppy Play

What is Puppy Play

Puppy Play is a type of pet play where the “pet” takes on the role of a canine and their partner (if they have one) often takes on the role of an owner/trainer/handler

Puppy play as we know it began in the leather community after the 2nd world war.

Now days puppy play has become hugely popular within BDSM communities!

In this post we will look at;

  • Types of Pups
  • Types of Humans
  • Activities
  • Gear
  • Where to find out more

Types of Pups

Some common puppy types pet players identify with are:

Puppies – Puppies are the over excitable, playful and super enthusiastic puppy player.

 Puppies or pups is also used as an umbrella name for puppy player.

Strays – Pups who are not collared or do not have an owner/trainer/handler

Alphas – Alpha’s tend to be the top dogs around the other pups. Alphas can take a leadership role within packs or at community events 

Sometimes they will even exert this dominance over their humans as well. 

Show Dogs – This type of pup generally enjoys training for a purpose and showmanship. This is often to compete in competitions like obedience or agility but it can also just be for the fun of it!


Types of Humans

Handlers – those who care for and train one or more pups. This is the most common term used for humans in puppy play and can act as a blanket term if your not sure of the human/pup player dynamic.

Owners – those who “own” the pup. They are incharge of caring for their pup much like a Handler but the title itself gives off more of a power dynamic vibe

Trainers – those who teach and discipline puppy girls and boys to excel in their (or their dominants) chosen interests. 

Companions – those who interact and play with pups without necessarily being in charge of training or caring for them.


Activities!

Training – Basic training often includes simple command words (sit, stay, beg), and positioning training.

Moshes – Moshes are like a big puppy play-date. these events provide a safe space for pups to play and wrestle with one another (Called moshing). Moshes are also an opportunity for handlers to spend some time socializing too!

Shows – Human pup competitions take place all over the world and can be a great opportunity to meet up and make new friends in the pup community. Competing in the shows is entirely optional and can be a ton of fun if you want to try it out!


Gear

Puppy Play gear is varied and personalized depending on you, your pup space and/or your dynamics. Gear isn’t needed to be a puppy player but it can be a fun way to express yourself!

Some common pieces of gear in Puppy Play are;

Hoods – can be used to help pups look more pup-ish or as a form of sensory deprivation. Hoods are often made of leather or rubber and come in a range of styles and colours to suit any pup!

Ears – ears can be a part of hoods or come on headbands/clips. Ears are often made with faux fur if they’re on headbands. They can be a super fun way to add to the feeling of being a pup without using a hood

Mitts – mitts can be padded or not and are mainly used to remove the pups ability to use their fingers/hands.

Harness – Harnesses can be used for aesthetic, bondage or as attachment points

Collar – collars can be aesthetic or symbolic depending on you and your dynamic

Tails – tails come in a ton of different styles to match ears, masks or whatever style you want. Tails also come with the option of being inserted or attached through harnesses, belt loops or tying around the waist depending in personal preference

Knee pads – Knee pads!! I have recently learnt how much knee injuries suck. If you like to crawl in your pup space please please please protect your knees and always use knee pads!


Where to find out more

To find out more about Puppy play check out

Blogs like Nerdy Doggo and Deviance and Desire

Evie Lupines videos

And online communities like fetlife


Photo by istolethetv


LilSuccubuss

BDSM Kitten Play Training

BDSM Kitten Play Training

Paws up Kitten

Training and I had a rocky start to our relationship

I loved the idea of training and the obedience that would come with it. 

I started with position training first because the mental and physical challenge of position training was appealing 

Naturally I tried the first guide to position training I found 

… it just did not work for me

It was too serious and frankly intimidating for me

After a few false starts, I found this guide to kitten play command words by Sadistic Panther.

I highly HIGHLY reccomend checking out the link!!

And I fell in love

It was just so much more fun and playful and rewarding for both myself and my partners!

Over time my kitten play training has changed to fit my evolving D/s dynamics and identity as both a submissive and a pet

So this is what my Kitten play training looks like now


 Positions

Sit pretty 

How I do it. 

In this position I kneel with my knees shoulders width apart, sitting back on my feet. 

I like to have pointed toes that meet in a V behind me, because honestly it feels pretty to me. 

My hands rest on the floor between my knees and I push my chest out to give the best view of my… assets. 

My kitten side is vain, to say the least, she loves to show off and this position combined with the praise I often get for obeying hits all the right buttons for me.

Uses

  • Grooming
  • Pats
  • Putting on/removing gear (like collars, hoods, leashes etc)
  • Getting your pets attention
  • A clear start to a scene

Tail down

How I do it

This position is a variation on sit pretty where my feet are set wider apart (legs parallel or in an M shape) and my butt is firmly on the floor. I do my best to keep my butt on the ground – to try to help remind myself to and to show my Owner that I will Stay. 

Uses

  • Keep distractable kittens in one place – atleast for a li
  • Prevent mischief – I tend to steal my owners rope when theyre trying to pack up

Companion 

How I do it

This position I kneel just like in ‘Sit pretty’ but to my Owner’s right side (or wherever they indicate). If I can I will rest my head on my Owner’s lap. If I’m told ‘paws up’ in this position I will rest my ‘paws’ on their thigh. 

Uses 

  • Keeping your kitten close
  • Wind down a scene
  • A form of aftercare
  • Cuddles

Belly up 

How I do it. 

In this position I lie flat on my back with both my legs and arms partially bent and held up off the floor. My hands will usually stay or return to above my shoulders because this is where they feel the most natural.

Uses

  • Playing! Dangle rope or a feather wand above your kitten
  • Bondage
  • Sensation play
  • (consensually!) Molesting your kitten

Tail up

How I do it

I kneel like in tail down and stretch out and down until my chest touches the floor. I rest my left cheek on the floor as well to prevent bumping my head/face on the floor. I either stretch my arms out above my head or tuck my hands under my shoulders depending on how I’m feeling. And arch my back so my booty is high in the air, if I’m feeling frisky this will usually end in a butt wiggle. 

Spontaneously doing this position to show my Top that I am feeling playful and happy. 

Uses

  • Encouraging a submissive mindset in your pet 
  • Impact play
  • Inserting tail plugs
  • Booty wiggles 

Commands

Paws up 

How I do it.

I curl my fingers into my palms to create little paws and bring my hands up to my shoulders, palms out.

Uses 

  • Removes use of fingers and hands
  • Easy way to access hands/wrists for bondage
  • Combines well with most positions but works great with sit pretty/belly up

Beg 

How I do it

To beg I stand up on my knees with my hands in the paws up position. I usually follow this up with a mew or say ‘please’ depending on my or my Owner’s mood.

Uses 

  • This is a fun way to draw attention to and deepen the sense of your power dynamic
  • Feeding your pet treats
  • A way to gain enthusiastic consent for sexual play

Hunt 

How I do it

When given this command I crawl slowly on my hands and knees with my whole body as low to the ground as I can as if I’m stalking prey (usually in the form of a toy or my Owner). 

Uses 

  • Great fun when playing hide and seek with toys
  • Allows you and others to admire your pets hunting prowess

Knead 

How I do it

This command is pretty simple. I just start kneading whatever I am currently touching – as if I’m making bread. If I’m not wearing my mitts I tend to curl my fingers into the palm of my hand to knead so I don’t accidentally hurt anyone… 

Unless it’s a soft blanket because then i want to touch as much of it as humanly possible

Uses  

  • Encouraging your kitten to relax 
  • A great start to cuddle time with your pet
  • Good for self soothing nerves or excess energy
  • Combines well with the companion position

Clicks

How I do it

When my Owner clicks their fingers it’s the equivalent of “come here” for me and I will crawl over to them or to whenever they have indicated they want me.

 The verbal command “come” has little effect on my kitten side, clicking with verbal encouragement to “come here” gets my attention when I’m in a kitten space.

Uses

  • Get your pet where you want them
  • Following this up with the tail down position to keep them there


Leash Training

I’ve only recently started leash training with my Owner (as of a few weeks ago) and I’m so excited to see how this develops!!

How I do it

At the moment when my leash is on I treat it like a mobile companion command. 

This means that I try to stay at my Tops right side so my shoulder is in line with his leg, whether he is moving around or standing still. When he is still I like to sit down, mainly because I am a lazy pet and if I get distracted they usually manage to get my attention through clicking or a verbal command to ‘come’ or ‘follow’.

Uses

  • Have your kitten automatically follow you around
  • Keep your pet close and keep your freedom of movement
  • A physical reminder of your power exchange and your pets place

Would you or have you tried training? 

I’d really like to hear about your experiences and ideas below!

LilSuccubuss

Crafty critters – DIY day collar

Crafty critters – DIY day collar

DIY pet play day collar

So the other day I was deep in the black hole of the instagram pet community and I saw this

BDSM Animal Roleplay concept

Naturally I absolutly had to make a day collar with a little bell

and I thought to myself

Make it into a cradty critters tutorial!!!

So lets get started!


Making the collar

All you will need for this part is string and scissors!

Measure the string around your neck and add about 10cm. Cut 2 of this measurement. Then cut a third piece about 4-6 times longer than your center pieces

Fold your long piece of string in half and gather your pieces together like so

Tie a simple knot

Knot 1

Fold string as shown

Pull each string gently to secure knot

If you would like a spiral braid continue to repeat knot 1

Knot 2

Knot 2 is basically a reverse of Knot 1.

For a flat braid alternate between knot 1 and 2

Now keep making knots until you have reached the desired length for your day collar

When you have a long enough braid – tie a simple knot (I like to do this twice because i feel like its more secure) and trim the excess string

Thread your double knot through the loop to close


Adding extras!

For this you will need a pair of pliers, accessories (like bells or charms) and jump rings

Bend a jump ring open

Add your chosen charm

Find the half way point in your braid

Feed ring through the mid-way point of your collar

Close ring and enjoy your new day collar!

Did you enjoy this DIY?

I’d love to see what you crafty critters have been up to so show off your creations below!

LilSuccubuss

Pet Play – Building a dynamic

Pet Play – Building a dynamic

Playful kitten girl

Building a connection is hard – 

let alone a whole dynamic!!

And then add in being new to pet play or to this particular partner 

It’s definitely a challenge

But the good kind! right..?

Sadly we are all unique, individual (and often unpredictable) snowflakes

So… a step by step guide probably wont work out well  

So I’m going to talk about my experiences and what I like to do and hopefully you will be able to take the bits you enjoy and apply it to your dynamic!

In this post we will cover:

  • Common types of dynamics and relationships in Pet Play
  • Negotiations 
  • Aftercare
  • Non verbal safewording 
  • Building a bond
Crafty Critters – No-sew Clip in Bows!

Crafty Critters – No-sew Clip in Bows!

An easy DIY project for any pet to enjoy wearing and making!

Instructions

First: Gather your supplies!

For a set of two bows you will need:

  • Hot Glue gun and extra glue sticks
  • Measuring tape or ruler
  • 1.25 meters of ribbon (the ribbon I am using is 4 cm wide)
  • A lighter
  • Hair clips
  • Scissors
  • Candle (Optional! I just tend to burn myself more while using lighters)

Cut 2 pieces of ribbon at the following measurements

  • 20 cm
  • 15 cm
  • 12 cm
  • 5 cm

Seal the edges of ALL your ribbon using the flame from your candle or lighter so that they don’t fray.

Tip – Switch on the hot glue gun now so it can heat up.


Optional Step – Fancy Bow tails!

First take your 12 cm piece/s of ribbon and fold them in half width ways

Cut your ribbon at about a 45 degree angle

To seal try keep it loosely in half and run it past the flame (this helps to keep a crisp inner corner)

Do this of each end of the ribbon.


Fold your 20 and 15 cm pieces of ribbon in half lengthways.

I like to have the sealed edges fold over each other so I can secure the loop with a small dot of glue

Once everything is secure stack your ribbon pieces as shown

Add your 12 cm ribbon piece below and fold your ribbon pieces so they make a nice bow

(this takes a bit of trial and error)

Fold your 5 cm piece(s) into thirds

(helping hands can be really useful here!)

Take your 5 cm piece of ribbon and wrap it around your bow as tightly as possible.

Secure in a loop with a dot of hot glue.

After this your bow might look a little rumpled

That’s okay! because the 5 cm piece of ribbon is glued in a loop you can gently tug your bow back into place

Secure your hair clip to the back of your bow with some more glue and hold it in place while it cools

Admire your cute new bows!

Ways to wear them

Here they are clipped to a headband

Piper wears her bows in her hair behind her hood

Check out her instagram here

If you have any more ideas on how you can wear bows with pet gear let me know in the comments!

LilSuccubuss

Begginers Guide to Pet Play – Finding your pet side

Begginers Guide to Pet Play – Finding your pet side

When I first started in pet play I was overwhelmed with all of the information out there

From choosing animals to roleplay to developing fully functional dynamics with others and all the little details in between…

Pet Play can be intimidating.

So if you’re feeling a little overwhelmed – it’s okay!

I was exactly where you were and it gets better. 

So I wanted to write this post to try to help myself and others find their feet amongst all the information that’s out there.

We will look at 

  • Choosing the type of pet you want to roleplay
  • Gear
  • Trying out pet play
  • Joining the community!

Choosing the type of pet you want to roleplay

For me, this was probably the most stressful part of getting started with pet play.

Mainly because I can’t make a decision to save my life…

And everyone seemed to have such detailed specific pet personas!

It was overwhelming and for some reason, I had decided I could only have one pet side and I could NEVER GO BACK

Shockingly this is not the case. 

You can pick and choose and change your mind as much as you want

You can be any color, mix or type of creature you decide 

And you can have as many different pet spaces as you want to ( but I would recommend starting with one while you are finding your sea legs – otherwise it can get a bit overwhelming)

You can also choose not to have a species or type of pet you roleplay 

Human pets are a great example of this – they do not roleplay a specific animal’s behavior rather they roleplay as a ‘pet’ with whatever restrictions and roles they have negotiated prior.

Here are some ways people choose their pet types

Instant identification 

Some people just seem to know what pet they want to be

They’ve insisted on playing this one animal since they were a little kid 

or they’re a crazy cat lady like me

Maybe you’ve just always loved cats or dogs or ponies

Or you saw a pup at a party and you Want That

Some but not all people just know what they want.

If you are one of these people – awesome!

If not keep reading to find some other ways people have chosen their roleplay animal

Personality

Some people pick their pet based on personality traits that they identify with

For example, most cats are quite independent, like affection on their terms and tend to know what they want when they want it

Whereas dogs are super excitable and energetic, love affection pretty much always and tend to be very well behaved

What you want out of pet play 

Pet types can be chosen to fit what you want to get out of your roleplay.

Some examples of this are;

If you want to get into pet play for the obedience and training – pony play or puppy play might be your gig

If you adore humiliation play – piggy play might work perfectly for you

If you have a lactation/breastfeeding fetish – cow play would probably be great for you!

Trial and error

Sometimes there are too many choices that sound fun!

If this is the case just do a round of trial and error tasters of different types of pets and pick your favorite/s from that 

Dominants preference

If you can’t decide or you don’t want to decide, see what your Top thinks!

They may have envisioned pet play as having an obedient little pup, a strong cart pony, or perhaps a snuggly little bunny? 

This way you and your top can train and shape your pet roleplay to fit whatever their vision may be


Gear

So you have your pet type is chosen – it’s perfect, your excited – IM excited – 

Usually, the next thing people want to do is get stuck into the gear

This can be for a lot of reasons;

  • Having pet play gear can help signal the start and ends of scenes, 
  • It can encourage roleplay
  • It can make you feel cute
  • It’s just fun

There are tons of reasons to want and enjoy gear in your roleplay.

A quick disclaimer

Gear does not make the pet player

You are not more or less valid because of the gear you choose to have or not have. 

This is just another way to have fun if you want to.

There are a ton of different kinds of gear for pet play to fit any style and budget out there – more common pieces of gear can include;

Ears

Ears primarily come as clip in’s or headbands

Styles range from basic silhouettes to fancy and fluffy!

Tails

Tails mainly attach through plugs, safety pins, tying around ones waist/belt loops or to a harness

Materials can range from silicone to faux fur

Hoods

These are mostly used by puppy players but other options are avalible online.

Materials can range from leather to rubber and come in a ton of different styles and color combos

Masks

Masks can provide full or partial face coverings

Materials can range from fabrics such as leather to plastics

Body suits

Styles can range from full coverage to play boy bunny style body suits

Materials range from latex to lace and everything in between

Harnesses

Harnesses are primarily found for the chest, hip or face (as a mask or hood)

Purchased harnesses are most often made from leather or can be apart of rope bondage

Gloves/Mitts

These are available in a range of styles and restriction levels

Materials can range from leather to fur

Collars/Leads

Styles can range from pretty and decorative to ‘tug’ proof.

Materials for range from ribbon, chain, leather or strapping


Testing out pet play

Restrict yourself 

Follow some common rules or restrictions given to pets like

Movement restrictions

These can look like; crawling, not using hands to grasp stuff, not going up on furniture, keeping arms behind your back if testing out pony play 

Vocal restrictions

These can look like; not using words, testing out different noises like whining, growling, meowing, barking, etc

Mimic different pets

Aka my best excuse to watch cute animal videos for.. research…

Body Language

wiggle your booty if your excited, try grooming yourself with your paws 

Play

play fetch with yourself (bat the ball away, go fetch it and remember no hands! repeat), just swat the ball around, burrow into some blankets, lounge in the sun, find a slightly elevated spot and sit on it. Feel superior because you and no one else is on the slightly higher spot.

 – whatever seems the most appealing try it out!


Join the community!

One of the best ways to learn more about Pet play is to join your local or online communities

Fetlife – has both discussion groups and is a great resource for finding local events!

Online communities can be found on most platforms – just remember to stay safe!

If you found this useful be sure to follow so you can get notified when a new post is up!

Lil Succubuss

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What is Pet Play?

What is Pet Play?

Pet Play is when someone role plays some kind of domesticated animal (AKA a pet) within a BDSM context.

A cute little pet

What does Pet play looks like?

Storytime!

The room is lit with a warm yellow glow, the smell of vanilla – His signature – drifts through the room.
The door opens a crack and His pet slips into the room – still steaming from her shower – flashing him a smile before burying herself in His arms.
He chuckles and asks
“Are you ready to be my kitten, pet?”
She wriggles in excitement and nods eagerly.
Ears are collected, placed on her head – adjusted briefly by practiced hands as she is instructed;
“Tail up”
Obediently she moves into position.

Waiting.

A soft mewl escapes her lips as her tail is inserted – the veil of her kitten space begins to settle over her.
She slides to the floor and butts her head against his leg affectionately. He sits and begins to scratch behind her ears, down her neck. Mewls and purrs announce her descent into kitten mode as she basks in the affection
After a while, he stands. Rummaging through a drawer. His kitten watches avidly and as he reveals a small silver torch
Deeming his offering unworthy of sitting up his kitten wanders off to settle in her spot on the floor
A bright red dot appeared.
Dancing in front of her nose almost as if it’s teasing her,
mocking her hunting skills.
Her eyes narrow and she shifts into a hunter’s crouch
Wriggles her butt… pounces and..
What? It was right there!
The dot dances just beyond her paws and she prepares to pounce again.
He chuckles watching his kitten chasing the laser back and forth across the room.
Not so secretly enjoying the view of a mostly naked girl crawling around his room.
Eventually, she comes to rest at his feet, exhausted…
“Awh is my kitten all worn out?”
“Why don’t you come have some cuddles?” he asks, patting the bed.
Purring she climbs onto the bed settling herself over his chest.
They stay like this for a while, until he signals her to shift spaces with the request
“Can I have my girl back?”
She Nods
A few minutes and kisses later the heavy blanket of her kitten space has been lifted.
She looks up and grins
“Thank you! That was so much fun!”

“You’re welcome pet” he murmurs, kissing her forehead.

This is one super cute and fluffy example of a pet play scene.

One of the awesome things about pet play is how easily it can meld and change according to your kinks, moods, or wants.

So it can be cute and light and fluffy
It can be dark and twisted as fuck
It can be in the quiet moments when you are having a coffee at the end of the day,

It’s completely up to you!

Things commonly found in pet play scenes are;

  • Training (think positions, commands)
  • Playing with toys
  • Begging for treats (puppy dog eyes, whining, positions for edible or more physical rewards insert cheesy porno music here)
  • Walking your pet on a leash
  • Eating from bowls
  • Bondage
  • Impact
  • Movement and vocal restrictions

Why people enjoy it?

Roleplaying a pet can be a fun new way to receive service from an s-type
Or
A nice way to relax and be taken care of
Or
A different way to express submission (crawling after your master, pawing his leg for attention, non-verbal physical expressions of love and affection)
Adds to the intensity of a submissive mindset

Playing the role of the human is an opportunity to care for and spoil your partner
The increased level of reliance on the “human” for needs/wants of the pet (such as rest, food, water, play) can increase the focus and intensity of a scene.

Pet play overall

  • Can be a cool combination of playful and sexy
  • Melds well with other kinks so there is a lot to play with
  • Can be a different flavor of power exchange
  • Can be A fetish
  • is fun

Types of pet play

So your most commonly seen pet play types are;

  • Kitten play
  • Puppy play
  • Pony Play
  • Piggy Play
  • Cow Play
  • Human Pets – this is when you roleplay as a pet but do not roleplay as a particular animal or with specific animal traits such as barking, meowing etc

PSA
You can play whatever kind of animal you want providing they are at least kinda domesticated
I recently discovered the concept of dragon pet play – which is both AWESOME and proof that the only limit is your imagination

Myths

Beastiality

Pet Play is not about an attraction to actual animals. It’s about humans roleplaying

It is all or nothing when it comes to pet play and sex

Pet Play seems to be one of those subcultures that people believe has to be ether
As pure and virginal as the Virgin Mary
Or a bad porno

Mostly it’s somewhere in the middle of those two expectations and will vary person to person.

Only s-types can be pets

No!
This one both makes me grumpy and makes me laugh.
It’s like saying only males can be dominants.

Anyone on any side of the slash can roleplay as a pet if they want to.
Just like anyone of any gender identity can be a Dominant or a Submissive

Where to start

Research as much as possible!!

Here are some links to get you started:

And after you’ve researched like a mad man, maybe tested some stuff out independently

Negotiate with your partner
Not sure how to negotiate well?

Well here’s something I prepared earlier… Spoiler it’s more research links…

Safety Tips

Some things to consider when negotiating
Aka
Mistakes I made that really screwed me over and I don’t want you to suffer through

Knee Pads

Even if you don’t have joint issues I cannot stress this enough:
BUY SOME KNEE PADS
Seriously if you are going to be on all fours your knees are going to take some rough treatment.
Carpet burn, bruising, painful knees for literal DAYS (I didn’t have knee pads and I decided to play on a hardwood floor just this once- Do NOT make my mistake please)

Safewords

This is a BDSM activity so you absolutely need a safeword.
Id recommend the traffic light system because it’s easy to understand and remember

Green – I’m good, lets keep going!
Yellow/Orange – I need you to slow down and/or check in on me
Red – STOP RIGHT NOW

If your pet space is non-verbal decide and agree on a physical safe sign instead of a word.
I, for example, like to use a FIRM double-tap anywhere on my partner’s body.
If I can’t reach them,

I’ll knock/tap/stomp on whatever surface I happen to be on as loudly as possible.

If you have any examples of what pet play looks like for you, I would love to see your comments below!
It would be a huge help for future posts and play dates!

Lil Succubuss

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Animal Roleplay and BDSM

Animal Roleplay and BDSM

Okay, so I’ve rewritten this post about 5 times. I knew trying to write about BDSM and animal roleplay would be a challenge. But hey I was feeling cocky and up for a challenge!

I…

… I’m not feeling cocky anymore…

This is a ridiculously confusing topic and I didn’t realize how little I knew and how much controversy was out there. I was so busy trying to write the “correct” opinion that I wasn’t getting anything down on the page! 

So instead of trying to write the correct opinion. 

I’m just going to write about my opinion and ideas – on a few core ideas – from the experiences and chats that I have had with other animal role players.

Which will probably be Revisited and changed.. a lot.. 

So take what you will from this and I’d love to hear your opinions too!

The core ideas I wanted to cover are; 

  • The definitions of BDSM fetish and kink 
  • The types of animal roleplay that (in my opionion) can only occur in a BDSM context
  • If other forms of animal roleplay can be BDSM/kink/fetish activities and when. 
  • Adding elements of BDSM to your animal roleplay 
  • How to tell if someone’s animal roleplay is kinky or not 

Definitions of BDSM kink and fetish 

So I’m not going to lie, I went through a whole bunch of kink sites and mashed all of their definitions together. 

BDSM – any activities involving bondage, discipline, dominance submission, sadism or Masochism. 

Fetish – a sexual interest in an object, clothing, part of the body (excluding the obvious) or lets be real, pretty much anything.

Kink – any non conventional sexual fantasies or concepts.

BDSM only animal roleplay (platinum VIP card required)

So this is where things tend to get a bit blurry. 

There are lots of areas for discussion for this topic.

It mainly seems centered around forms of animal roleplay being sexual or non sexual, what ‘real’ BDSM is animal roleplay, why certain kinds of animal roleplay can only occur in a BDSM setting and

I am getting off topic..

Instead of trying to make sense of all these ideas and confusing myself.

I’m just going to give you my opinion on what constitutes and BDSM animal roleplay and why I think that. 

And if your keen you can do some more research or share your opinion in the comments! 

So in my head there are two main forms of BDSM animal roleplay. 

Primal play and pet play 

Primal play is when you let your base desires and instincts run the show. In my experience this usually comes out in a very physical way.

Often there is a physical fight for dominance over the other party or the take down and capture of another primal player (most often these players are called primal prey).

This is power exchange which as you know from the definition above is one of three aspects within BDSM.

The physical nature of primal play also tends to hurt. Its common to hurt others or hurt yourself in the process of wrestling your opponent or capturing your opponent;

Primal play isn’t typically known for being gentle.

Which brings in the aspect of sadism/masochism to most primal play scenes ive wittnessed.

And it’s for these reasons that I think primal play can only occur in BDSM. 

Pet play is when you take on the role of a pet – regardless of the animal you choose to roleplay.

The history of pet play is firmly rooted with BDSM. The first images of pet play were published were of Pony players all the way back in 1946!

I’ve been waiting all year to use that fact in a post!!!

Pony Play is also great example of how pet play involves many aspects of BDSM.

The tack worn by Pony players is a form of bondage, crops often used in training are discipline, sadism/masochism.

Having a Trainer, Owner, Rider, Groomer or human partner in this kind of  scene would be a form of power exchange or dominance/submission.

You can look at much any kind of pet play out there and see the aspects of BDSM within the activities. 

Adding BDSM into your animal roleplay 

I’m not gonna tell you step by step how to do this as everybody is difference

but

I highly HIGHLY recommended you do your research and talk to your partner (if you have one) like, A LOT.

Negotiating is key in both Risk Aware Consensual Kink and Safe Sane and Consensual BDSM.

Plus it will make sure you both have the most fun possible!

Some Ideas

Bondage

  • Collars and leashes 
  • Mitts
  • Rope 
  • Hoods

Discipline 

Usually this will involve some form of rules/expectations or restrictions during your scene and is implemented if they aren’t not met, have been broken or “broken” (aka punishments). Some tools for this can be

  • Spray bottles 
  • Crops
  • Newspapers
  • Spankings
  • Being tied to a post (like a time out for pets)

D/s 

  • Power dynamic – alpha/omega prey/predator
  • Rules and expectations of behavior 
  • Sit stay speak commands 
  • Training for tricks or positions (rewards in the form of snacks or attention are highly encouraged)
  • Having a trainer/owner etc is a power exchange because they are human and in that scene have a greater level of control over the role player
  • Restrictions on the s-type like movement,vocalizations, eye contact

S/M  

  • Impact – pony play training with crops can be soft or sadistic. Impact can often be seen in dark pet play scenes.
  • Biting
  • Scratching
  • Wrestling

How to tell if someones animal roleplay is BDSM/kinky

This one isn’t a trick question but can still be really hard to do. 

Ask them!

Keep in mind screaming “HEY ARE YOU INTO KINK” across the street at someone wearing ears isn’t gonna be the most appropriate way to go about asking..

You will probably only come across BDSM animal roleplay at kink events/parties/dungeons/shows etc.

If you are unsure, curious and know them a little more than a total stranger ask (in a polite way!)

Some links for the geeky

https://fetlife.com/groups/27

https://fetlife.com/groups/33702?sp=1

Thanks for reading!

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