Begginers Guide to Pet Play – Finding your pet side

When I first started in pet play I was overwhelmed with all of the information out there

From choosing animals to roleplay to developing fully functional dynamics with others and all the little details in between…

Pet Play can be intimidating.

So if you’re feeling a little overwhelmed – it’s okay!

I was exactly where you were and it gets better. 

So I wanted to write this post to try to help myself and others find their feet amongst all the information that’s out there.

We will look at 

  • Choosing the type of pet you want to roleplay
  • Gear
  • Trying out pet play
  • Joining the community!

Choosing the type of pet you want to roleplay

For me, this was probably the most stressful part of getting started with pet play.

Mainly because I can’t make a decision to save my life…

And everyone seemed to have such detailed specific pet personas!

It was overwhelming and for some reason, I had decided I could only have one pet side and I could NEVER GO BACK

Shockingly this is not the case. 

You can pick and choose and change your mind as much as you want

You can be any color, mix or type of creature you decide 

And you can have as many different pet spaces as you want to ( but I would recommend starting with one while you are finding your sea legs – otherwise it can get a bit overwhelming)

You can also choose not to have a species or type of pet you roleplay 

Human pets are a great example of this – they do not roleplay a specific animal’s behavior rather they roleplay as a ‘pet’ with whatever restrictions and roles they have negotiated prior.

Here are some ways people choose their pet types

Instant identification 

Some people just seem to know what pet they want to be

They’ve insisted on playing this one animal since they were a little kid 

or they’re a crazy cat lady like me

Maybe you’ve just always loved cats or dogs or ponies

Or you saw a pup at a party and you Want That

Some but not all people just know what they want.

If you are one of these people – awesome!

If not keep reading to find some other ways people have chosen their roleplay animal

Personality

Some people pick their pet based on personality traits that they identify with

For example, most cats are quite independent, like affection on their terms and tend to know what they want when they want it

Whereas dogs are super excitable and energetic, love affection pretty much always and tend to be very well behaved

What you want out of pet play 

Pet types can be chosen to fit what you want to get out of your roleplay.

Some examples of this are;

If you want to get into pet play for the obedience and training – pony play or puppy play might be your gig

If you adore humiliation play – piggy play might work perfectly for you

If you have a lactation/breastfeeding fetish – cow play would probably be great for you!

Trial and error

Sometimes there are too many choices that sound fun!

If this is the case just do a round of trial and error tasters of different types of pets and pick your favorite/s from that 

Dominants preference

If you can’t decide or you don’t want to decide, see what your Top thinks!

They may have envisioned pet play as having an obedient little pup, a strong cart pony, or perhaps a snuggly little bunny? 

This way you and your top can train and shape your pet roleplay to fit whatever their vision may be


Gear

So you have your pet type is chosen – it’s perfect, your excited – IM excited – 

Usually, the next thing people want to do is get stuck into the gear

This can be for a lot of reasons;

  • Having pet play gear can help signal the start and ends of scenes, 
  • It can encourage roleplay
  • It can make you feel cute
  • It’s just fun

There are tons of reasons to want and enjoy gear in your roleplay.

A quick disclaimer

Gear does not make the pet player

You are not more or less valid because of the gear you choose to have or not have. 

This is just another way to have fun if you want to.

There are a ton of different kinds of gear for pet play to fit any style and budget out there – more common pieces of gear can include;

Ears

Ears primarily come as clip in’s or headbands

Styles range from basic silhouettes to fancy and fluffy!

Tails

Tails mainly attach through plugs, safety pins, tying around ones waist/belt loops or to a harness

Materials can range from silicone to faux fur

Hoods

These are mostly used by puppy players but other options are avalible online.

Materials can range from leather to rubber and come in a ton of different styles and color combos

Masks

Masks can provide full or partial face coverings

Materials can range from fabrics such as leather to plastics

Body suits

Styles can range from full coverage to play boy bunny style body suits

Materials range from latex to lace and everything in between

Harnesses

Harnesses are primarily found for the chest, hip or face (as a mask or hood)

Purchased harnesses are most often made from leather or can be apart of rope bondage

Gloves/Mitts

These are available in a range of styles and restriction levels

Materials can range from leather to fur

Collars/Leads

Styles can range from pretty and decorative to ‘tug’ proof.

Materials for range from ribbon, chain, leather or strapping


Testing out pet play

Restrict yourself 

Follow some common rules or restrictions given to pets like

Movement restrictions

These can look like; crawling, not using hands to grasp stuff, not going up on furniture, keeping arms behind your back if testing out pony play 

Vocal restrictions

These can look like; not using words, testing out different noises like whining, growling, meowing, barking, etc

Mimic different pets

Aka my best excuse to watch cute animal videos for.. research…

Body Language

wiggle your booty if your excited, try grooming yourself with your paws 

Play

play fetch with yourself (bat the ball away, go fetch it and remember no hands! repeat), just swat the ball around, burrow into some blankets, lounge in the sun, find a slightly elevated spot and sit on it. Feel superior because you and no one else is on the slightly higher spot.

 – whatever seems the most appealing try it out!


Join the community!

One of the best ways to learn more about Pet play is to join your local or online communities

Fetlife – has both discussion groups and is a great resource for finding local events!

Online communities can be found on most platforms – just remember to stay safe!

If you found this useful be sure to follow so you can get notified when a new post is up!

Lil Succubuss

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Published by Lil Succubuss

Hi! I'm Lil Succubuss Since I can remember I have loved role playing as a cat. When I first joined the local BDSM scene I discovered Animal Role play and it honestly felt like home! 3 years later and I have only barely scratched the surface of what Animal Role play can be! Now I want to start sharing what I have learnt about Animal Role play and BDSM So, at the very least, I can organize my thoughts and hopefully make navigating the world of Animal Roleplay a bit easier for readers like you!

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