When I first started in pet play I was overwhelmed with all of the information out there
From choosing animals to roleplay to developing fully functional dynamics with others and all the little details in between…
Pet Play can be intimidating.
So if you’re feeling a little overwhelmed – it’s okay!
I was exactly where you were and it gets better.
So I wanted to write this post to try to help myself and others find their feet amongst all the information that’s out there.
We will look at
- Choosing the type of pet you want to roleplay
- Trying out pet play
- Joining the community!
Choosing the type of pet you want to roleplay
For me, this was probably the most stressful part of getting started with pet play.
Mainly because I can’t make a decision to save my life…
And everyone seemed to have such detailed specific pet personas!
It was overwhelming and for some reason, I had decided I could only have one pet side and I could NEVER GO BACK
Shockingly this is not the case.
You can pick and choose and change your mind as much as you want
You can be any color, mix or type of creature you decide
And you can have as many different pet spaces as you want to ( but I would recommend starting with one while you are finding your sea legs – otherwise it can get a bit overwhelming)
You can also choose not to have a species or type of pet you roleplay
Human pets are a great example of this – they do not roleplay a specific animal’s behavior rather they roleplay as a ‘pet’ with whatever restrictions and roles they have negotiated prior.
Here are some ways people choose their pet types
Some people just seem to know what pet they want to be
They’ve insisted on playing this one animal since they were a little kid
or they’re a crazy cat lady like me
Maybe you’ve just always loved cats or dogs or ponies
Or you saw a pup at a party and you Want That
Some but not all people just know what they want.
If you are one of these people – awesome!
If not keep reading to find some other ways people have chosen their roleplay animal
Some people pick their pet based on personality traits that they identify with
For example, most cats are quite independent, like affection on their terms and tend to know what they want when they want it
Whereas dogs are super excitable and energetic, love affection pretty much always and tend to be very well behaved
What you want out of pet play
Pet types can be chosen to fit what you want to get out of your roleplay.
Some examples of this are;
If you want to get into pet play for the obedience and training – pony play or puppy play might be your gig
If you adore humiliation play – piggy play might work perfectly for you
If you have a lactation/breastfeeding fetish – cow play would probably be great for you!
Trial and error
Sometimes there are too many choices that sound fun!
If this is the case just do a round of trial and error tasters of different types of pets and pick your favorite/s from that
If you can’t decide or you don’t want to decide, see what your Top thinks!
They may have envisioned pet play as having an obedient little pup, a strong cart pony, or perhaps a snuggly little bunny?
This way you and your top can train and shape your pet roleplay to fit whatever their vision may be
So you have your pet type is chosen – it’s perfect, your excited – IM excited –
Usually, the next thing people want to do is get stuck into the gear
This can be for a lot of reasons;
- Having pet play gear can help signal the start and ends of scenes,
- It can encourage roleplay
- It can make you feel cute
- It’s just fun
There are tons of reasons to want and enjoy gear in your roleplay.
A quick disclaimer
Gear does not make the pet player
You are not more or less valid because of the gear you choose to have or not have.
This is just another way to have fun if you want to.
There are a ton of different kinds of gear for pet play to fit any style and budget out there – more common pieces of gear can include;
Ears primarily come as clip in’s or headbands
Styles range from basic silhouettes to fancy and fluffy!
Tails mainly attach through plugs, safety pins, tying around ones waist/belt loops or to a harness
Materials can range from silicone to faux fur
These are mostly used by puppy players but other options are avalible online.
Materials can range from leather to rubber and come in a ton of different styles and color combos
Masks can provide full or partial face coverings
Materials can range from fabrics such as leather to plastics
Styles can range from full coverage to play boy bunny style body suits
Materials range from latex to lace and everything in between
Harnesses are primarily found for the chest, hip or face (as a mask or hood)
Purchased harnesses are most often made from leather or can be apart of rope bondage
These are available in a range of styles and restriction levels
Materials can range from leather to fur
Styles can range from pretty and decorative to ‘tug’ proof.
Materials for range from ribbon, chain, leather or strapping
Testing out pet play
Follow some common rules or restrictions given to pets like
These can look like; crawling, not using hands to grasp stuff, not going up on furniture, keeping arms behind your back if testing out pony play
These can look like; not using words, testing out different noises like whining, growling, meowing, barking, etc
Mimic different pets
Aka my best excuse to watch cute animal videos for.. research…
wiggle your booty if your excited, try grooming yourself with your paws
play fetch with yourself (bat the ball away, go fetch it and remember no hands! repeat), just swat the ball around, burrow into some blankets, lounge in the sun, find a slightly elevated spot and sit on it. Feel superior because you and no one else is on the slightly higher spot.
– whatever seems the most appealing try it out!
Join the community!
One of the best ways to learn more about Pet play is to join your local or online communities
Online communities can be found on most platforms – just remember to stay safe!
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